Addressing Bullies Revisited

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0:42 Because again, we are a creative we are a village. You know what we see at the end of every podcast. You know what we say, we will say to the indivisible. But thank you for joining me today. Listen, I'm gonna jump straight into it. Cousins and kind folks. I saw a video today that and I've seen several of them. Uh yea. For those who know you know how I feel about bullying. Y'all know how I feel about bullets. I can't stand bullets. They can't stand anybody who feel that they have to have to take the time or have the need or the inkling to the mean someone to be little, someone to be rate someone, and any shape, form or fashion, whether it's physically, verbally, emotionally, or intellectually, it doesn't matter to me how whatever form it is, I despise it completely in every shape, form and fashion of it.

1:41 I can't stand bullets. What do you get out of it? Nothing? For whatever twisted purpose that they do that it that it comes to in your mind I'm talking to you, bullets right now. Whatever, whatever inkling that it comes to you in your minds, what goes through that? What satisfaction do you give? It doesn't make you feel good to do so, doesn't make you feel powerful. It's this retaliation possibly for him, you being picked on when you were younger, or being or being dogged to be little by those who in a thirty figures you, maybe in your family, like your parents, or something with that particular nature, so you decide to take it out on everybody else. Is that the case? Is this something that's taught?

2:23 It's this a learned Well, it's definitely a learned behavior, because none of us comes out to be bullies. So this is a learned behavior. But the video I was talking about here a little earlier. I'm sorry I got sidetrack. Y'all know how I am and how passionate I get when it comes to talking about bullies go it's just can't stand'em. I just can't. But this video I saw you really disturbed me. So there was a young black kid, a teenager fourteen years old, got invited to come out and hang out with four of his friends. Now, as I understand from this video and this story, all of these friends were Caucasian. These all of these kids went to school together, so they all lived roughly in the same neighborhood community wherever. But they all live in proximity of each other.

3:09 But all got to or asked to come hang out with them at the lake. So they went to this like to do. So one of these friends decided to get upon himself to not only belittle and be raped said friends that they and that he invited. They took it upon himself too when they get in the water to attempt to drown him. Yes, you heard me right, cousins and king folks. He attempted to drown this young man. And so the others were standing by looking and not do anything to help. They're laughing about it, but just so happened. There was a bystander there also who heard the young man screaming and asking for help, and he came to assist. Now, the other three what they claimed that that was just nothing.

4:04 They were just playing, But he was literally try to drown this young man, and so the authorities were called. There was an investigation. Shouldn't have been much of an investigation. Parents were involved, of course, and these this young man who attempted to drown him was arrested. I can't remember the charges right now. I'll be sure to ensure that I find out those exact charges. But the main charge that I listened for that I didn't hear was not he was not charged with it. Because everything about this goes back to say so now, I don't like to make everything about race, but a lot of what's happening in this country nowadays is race related. We can't avoid that. There's nowhere around that conversation. There's nowhere around that. When we see more and more of it again each and every day, there's nowhere around that. But I didn't read hate crime. You did this because of the de meaning names, because I'm not gonna say what it was called, but we all know, right, because it's the kind folks we all know I was. Ah, I don't have to say it, but we all know what he was called by this young man and then attempted to be drowned

5:34 on top of that brilliant that was his sole purpose of inviting him there, to demean him, to ridicule him, to attempt to drown him. And I'm sure, and I think the most high that this young man did not lose his life, that somebody was there enough to see and hear him his cries, his pleas for help and came to help him. I'm grateful for that. But had not that said person been there, what would have happened?

6:25 And I'm more than show we'd have got a whole lot of the same. Oh he slipped, Oh it didn't mean to. Oh I felt that I was in danger. Yeah. I get get tired of here in those same excuses and then they go for that foolishness. Where as black men as black people period. But I'm right now, I'm talking about my black brother my brothers. We're always made out to be the most violent people in the word that we're so violent that we're a danger, that they're afraid of us. But when it comes to violence, it's not us who's always so violent.

7:08 It's the palm color. It's not us always. It's not us. But they have no reason to only because of how we look. And that just burns me up on so many different levels. How can you not dislike? How can you hate hate hate a person because of the color of their skin. You have no other reason to do so. You know nothing about them personally, You don't know how they grew up, where they grew up, or if they have a disdain for you, And then to say form of fashion that doesn't matter to you at that moment, you immediately dislike them because of their color. That It's sad, But that's the state of this country that we live in right now called the United States. We're finding ourselves repeating history. We're finding ourselves doing so we cannot allow that to happen.

8:33 Cousins again, folks, we are not going back to what was before, although the powers that be are doing everything they can tend to do so now I'm not gonna get into politics and anything of that particular nature. Yall know that it's not my ram. That's not my forte. That's not what I do. But I'm gonna have We're gonna have some conversation about that in this season of currently under construction. I'm gonna have a get a couple of guests on who that is their realm of business, that is their forte, that is what they do and what they talk about, and they're gonna give us a whole lot of insight or what's going on in this country and what we can do, what we need to do to step up. But I digress.

9:30 So this young man who committed this violent act and these others that stood around with him, there weren't charges of adults, they were charges of juveniles, but was immediately released until his parents' custody. You committed something so horrendous to the point that they they they homo told you but attempted homicide. But you have been released until your parent's custody not to come in contact with this young man, that anybody in his family and going forward. But then was that s what does their teacher said individual about his about his actions? Seeing for me in a situation like that, that lets them know that what he did was okay. Although he got in trouble, but what he did was okay that there would never be in their consequences or repercussions for his actions.

10:31 So going forward in the future, and I'm gonna try to keep an eye on this, this particular story, cousins and kin folks were going forward in the future. That means he will then probably develop the mind said that, Oh, regardless or whatever I do, I can get away with it because I'm the right pigmentation to do so. So yeah, I can I can do that. I can do that. Bullies again, y'a've heard me say this before. They always running packs. They always know who to pick on, see for those that they've deemed weak, and then it's some some shape form or fashion. These are the ones that they pick on. But then they never do it individually. They never do it alone. It's always in packs. I aligned h bullies to a pack of hyenas. If you all know from school history, if you watch the Animal Channel or Discovery or whatever the case may be, you know hyenas running packs. But if you catch any one of'em individually, you'll run them off scared as all outdoors.

11:43 But when it's four or five of them together, Oh, they build a badass then, Oh yeah, they they're ready to run up on you, especially if they catch you by yourself. Oh they're ready to run up on you. Oh they're ready to stand out big, especially that lead one who's just as scary as the rest of them. But that's how bullies run. They always run in packs. They always need a yes man, a yes man or somebody the key key or co signed with the foolishness that they're doing. Had a really good friend and I was trying to use that kind of using that word loosely, but they were this person and this person I know and I have always had a pretty good associate ship. But they had a nice ongoing business on the internet, and they were bullied into the point on the Internet that was appointed they had to shut down their site and and think of another stream of uh uh avenue. They had to shut down their social media presence which helped their business, because they were being bullied because some troll

13:13 decided to because they wouldn't give them any attention, They decided to make this person's life miserable and attacking them and always putting something negative on their their business site or uh in their social media uh platform, or they're taking their likeness and and doing all the all different kinds of vulgar things with their ownline. And when this person asked them, can you remove my likeness? Can you removed it from what you're doing? This person told them it's the end of that. I can do whatever I want to. Blank you and blank you and blank you. Now what you're gonna do about it? See, it's foolishness like that. See these especially these keyboard uh bullets. Oh, they they really killed me. Because then you're big and bold, you can say whatever you can hand behind a keyboard because you figure no want to know where you are. Nobody'll really can't identify you. They don't know why I am.

14:05 They can't find me. Never say never, because somebody people can if they put the energy to do so. But some of these people don't want to. They don't want to deal with that foolishness because it's it's it goes nowhere. Who wants to put negative energy back into something that's already negative? Who wants to take the time to deal with people who they'll never lay her eye on at all? But then I go back and ask why are you getting out from this person and you doing so because again this particular individual, he got mad because she didn't give him any attention or she did not his advances, so he decided to try to bully at her. But see, this is this, this is the thing that I'm seeing more and more of cousins and king folks with with with a lot of young men doing so.

15:05 Now this is gonna be I'm I'm gonna touch based on this a little bit, but this is definitely gonna be another episode coming up here on currently under construction next week. Some of these young men, when they don't get what they want, they don't know how to accept the word no or a person saying hey, no, it's okay, I'm I'm not interested. They then in turn want to begin to be little, said woman. And I've I've not only just seen on the internet, I've seen this in person. I've seen this in the workplace. That they'll try to uh approach and and and and holler young this this this woman and this woman tell them and not the rude way, Hey you know what, I think you could, but I'm not interested. They don't want to hear that. Then they in turn want to begin to be little and be rate this woman, call it out of her name and whatnot, and she didn't want to begin a smear campaign going forward. You want to, then now to become a bullet to this person because they were not interested. They have the right to say I am not interested. There are other there are other women out there, women right now.

16:21 From the last numbers that I saw right now, women outweigh men thirty to one for this one that turns you down there twenty nine more. Chief, she wasn't interested. Okay, then go go go holler at you another one slim, But for you at that particular moment, because this woman said no, in your mind, you're saying, how dare she's tell you know? How dare she rejects you. I'm gonna fix her. I'm gonna begin to bullet her. I'm gonna smear her name for what for what? Man? Grow up, all you bullies. You need to grow up. But most of you bullies think that you can do these things and then there are no consequences. There are consequences, whether it be by that person, whether it be by someone else, or whether it be by law enforcement. There are consequences. That's unavoidable. That's unavoidable period. I need you people to sit and take a good hard look you bullies I'm talking to right now, if you try to take a good hard look at yourselves, because guess what

17:52 if you put yourself in one of these situations bullying somebody, you run across the wrong one, you can't do and become you can't then in turn play the victim, because this is a situation you created. Cousins and kin folks, if you think that you've run across somebody who's attempting to bully you, there are things that you can do to remove yourself from our situations. You don't have to deal with them. You don't have to talk to them, you don't have to engage them, because that is the biggest thing that they can't stand and will infuriate them even were when you do not engage them, you take all that power from them, take all that power from them.

18:44 A lot of them don't like if you turn around, if you flip the script on them, which I mean if I'm I'm not condoning that. But in the event, if you're one of those people who feel that, okay, I'm gonna show'em you got the wrong one. All I'm gonna do is throw my hands up, cousins and and can folks him saying, hey, you reap what you so. That's what the word says from the most time. You reap what you so, whether it be good, whether it be bad. So you, bullets, if I were you, I get somewhere and sat down, chill out, try to enjoy life instead of sitting here. Want to run around and be miserable. So you want to make other people miserable or because you can't get your weight. It's not about you.

19:44 To stop making everything all about you. If you've hurt so for you bullets that me hear this podcast, Please take heed to that. Please take hey, I'll go talk to one of your uncles or your your great aunts or uncle or auntie somewhere that have some sense that and and listen to what they have to say. Please all right, cousins, ken folks, I didn't think I gon top to your head off enough. You know. I love y'all. I'm gonna get on up by the hill. I wanna thank y'all for joining me today on your favorite podcast and mind currently under construction.

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