Oct. 27, 2023
Breast Cancer Awareness/ Domestic Violence Awareness Month

On this episode we discuss Breast Cancer Awareness Month . We support all of our sisters who may have experienced breast cancer and we support all research.We also discuss Domestic violence as this month is also Domestic Violence Awareness month. We...
On this episode we discuss Breast Cancer Awareness Month . We support all of our sisters who may have experienced breast cancer and we support all research.We also discuss Domestic violence as this month is also Domestic Violence Awareness month. We speak on this horriffic topic ways to get out of it and knowing your worth. You dont want to miss this hard hitting episode.
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Cousins, Ken folks, Happy Friday. How's everyone doing to day? Welcome
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to currently under construction. Thank you
so much for joining me. Man.
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It's a beautiful day outside, so
if you haven't been out and enjoying the
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great weather, get on out to
Dare. Get on out and take a
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ride, take a walk, whatever
it is that you're doing today, Just
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get out and enjoy yourself today because
hey, we know tomorrow's not promise to
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take any of us. Right now, before we get into the show,
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I want to send a shout out
to the Foster family in Las Vegas.
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Childhood friend of mine passed away on
yesterday. It was announced by her daughter
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and confirmed by her sister, who
I know personally as well. So I
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want to send a shout out to
the Foster family Tanisa and all of her
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daughters and her son and her grandchildren
and everything. She was a sweet lady.
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She had suffered quite a bit with
different ailments or whatnot, so she
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doesn't have to suffer anymore. So
again we want to send us and say
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prayers and condolences for her and her
loved ones and family. And we just
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prayed that, you know, in
this time of breathing right now that they
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are comforted that the Most High will
wrap his arms around them and comfort them
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and love on them and know that
she is in a much better place right
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now. So again we're going to
send shout out to the Foster slash Haley
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family. Resto Nisha, God,
continue to cover your family, your loved
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ones, and wrap you in His
bosom. All right, cousins and ken
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folks, We're gonna go on and
get on to it. Cousins, listen,
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the month of October is Breast cancer
and Domestic Violence Awareness month. Now,
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normally, if you've rocked with me
from day one, you know every
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year we're doing an episode of maybe
two about this. We haven't this month.
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We're just not getting around to it
because again we were on a hiatus
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and I want again once again we're
gonna touch based on that. So you
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all know. For those of you
who have followed me since day one or
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you know me personally, you know
that I'm a huge advocate in supporting any
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and all type of cancer research,
any of all type of cancer activities,
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any of all type of cancer organizations
or supporting groups or whatnot, and me
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being I cancer survivor myself. For
those of you who don't take the time
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to make sure that you get yourself
screamed. Ladies. I don't know what
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that's like personally, but I have
seen the effects of it, and I've
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known a couple of people who I
have been diagnosed with it, who've gone
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through, some who've made it,
some weren't so lucky. But early detection
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is definitely important. So ladies,
ladies, my sisters, my sisters,
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my cousins, my nieces, my
aunts, my mother's out there, please
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make sure you take the time to
go get yourself screamed and tested. You
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know, doesn't have to be at
a certain age. Don't wait till something
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happens or you feel something funny,
or whatever the case may be. Go
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get yourself screamed regularly, you know, along with your yearly to ensure that
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you are okay. Everything is good, And early detection is normally the best
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thing to do because you can just
get past that, you can get that
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treated taken care of and whatnot a
way ahead of time, instead of finding
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out too late and having to ravage
your body or perhaps even have a mistake
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to me in order to bypass this
dreadful disease. So again, my sisters.
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You know, just make sure that
you do whatever it is to take
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care of your your tatars. I'm
saying that as a jokingly right now,
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but I'm so serious at the same
time, because especially among black women in
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our community, it's such a hits
such a high rate. So ladies,
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my sisters, please, I implore
you, as your cousin who loves you
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all dearly, make sure you get
yourself screened and taking care of so that
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is that you won't have to experience
and go through and battle it in whatever
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the case may be. Because this
dreadful disease is out there. It is
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attacking us, It is attacking our
sisters in so many different ways. So
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so also you know, support you
know, breast cancer awareness, breast cancer
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organizations, breast cancer support. Go
out there and support in any way you
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can. Not just my sisters,
my brothers, you too, whether you
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can take care of participate in our
breast cancer awareness walk, wrathful, whatever
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the case may be, Let's ensure
that we get out there and we support
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in any and every way we can
share it, share that information, donate
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if you can, or if you
want to, whatever it takes. However
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you can you feel that you want
or to show support. Let's get out
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there and do that because it's very
important and it affects us all. So
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again, breast cancer Awareness. Let's
just ensure that we do everything that we
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can to help support our sisters out
here who are battling it, those who
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may have experienced it, and those
who may have overcome it. All right,
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I love y'all, I love you
dearly. Now I'm probably about to
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crank up a little bit because those
of you who know me, you know
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this is a touching subject for me. But this, the awareness for this
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on this month seems to always take
a back seat for some reason. So
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I want to bring it to the
forefront. So this month is also domestic
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Violence Awareness Month. Now, domestic
violence isn't always physical and be mental and
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emotional, and it can be all
three. But this uh, bringing awareness
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to this particular heinous act always seems
to take a back seat somehow or another
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to anything else that happens this month, even to Halloween. Well you know
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what I'm I'm from. I'm bringing
it to the forefront. So I want
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to send a message right now to
before I do that. Before I do
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that, I mean, let me
me really then cousins, Kennic Fold,
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y'all, just y'all just hanging there
with me. Domestic violence is wrong.
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There is no acceptance of it.
There is no well let's talk, hey.
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There's nothing about that that's right.
There's nothing about it that is okay.
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There is nothing about it that warrants
it. No woman or a man
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because don't think it don't happen to
me, and because it does. But
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no woman or no person has a
right to abuse you in any form,
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for whatever reason, for whatever twisted
thing that they may come to or think
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in their mind. There is no
reasoning for that, and it shouldn't be
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tolerated. It shouldn't be tolerated in
any shape, form or fashion. You,
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sisters that are out there that may
be experiencing this, you don't deserve
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that. Your children don't deserve to
see you hurt all the time. This
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person will will will manipulate and say
or or try to flip to make it
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seem like it's your fault. It's
not. It is not your fault.
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It's not your fault in any shape, form or fashion. That is all
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them, and you don't have to
accept it. You don't have to put
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up with it. At all.
They don't have the right to. They
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don't own you, they don't have
the right to have that power over you.
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You are not their slave. You
are not there in their their their
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dog, or anything of that particular
nature. You are not. And for
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those of you who who are who
do it that you think it's okay,
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you got another thing coming. Cause
again we all know you know me,
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you know I hate bullets. And
guess what. Those who do take the
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time to to exert try to exert
power over those that they feel that are
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weaker than them. You're a bully, you're a bully, but someone that's
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stronger than you, or that you
can't intimidate or whatever. These are the
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people that you bow down to.
These are the people that you back up
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from. And again, domestic abuse
isn't always physical. It's a lot of
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time it's mental and emotional. I
I knew his sister who dated this guy,
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and he was extremely abusive to her
mentally and emotionally. He'd always make
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everything seem like it was her fault
and it was her doing, and she
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would always sit and think and try
to say, what could she do to
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do better? Oh, she's sorry. He never took responsibility for anything that
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he did and whatever he did to
abuse her in any way, he flipped
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it like it was completely all her
fault when it wasn't. And when things
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continued to escalate and then became physical, and she even she thought of leaving,
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he'd always find someway of what buttons
to push to talk her back in,
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say oh, it's I'm sorry,
It'll never happened again. I'm sorry,
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I didn't mean to do that.
If you wouldn't have done x y
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Z, I wouldn't have done this
right here, never took responsibility. Even
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the apology was like he's was gaslighting
her. And she would come talk to
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me and talk to a couple of
other of our mutual friends about it,
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and we all said the same thing, you need to leave, you need
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to leave. But he says he
loves me. Love isn't supposed to hurt.
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Love's supposed to end up being a
closed fists. Love isn't supposed to
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be somebody that's dogging you, that's
down in you, that's you know,
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calling you everything under the sun just
to hold some type of power over you.
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And one minute they're like, oh
you, I just love you so
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much. I just don't want to
be without you, And then the next
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minute they're calling you out of your
name and hitting you. That's not love,
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that's not love. And it got
so bad to the point to where
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or she did have enough and she
wanted to leave. He took her life
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so she couldn't leave, because his
egotistical mind couldn't let her go and it
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wasn't on his accord, so he
took her life. Where is he now
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doing a life sentence in Louisiana State
Penitentiary. He'll never get it, he'll
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never see the streets again, and
he had no remorse about it in any
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shape, form or fashion. That
women did not deserve that. No woman
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who goes through that deserves that.
No man who goes through that deserves that.
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And now you sit here asking him
like, wait a minute, men
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are being domestically abused. Yes,
there are women out there that are now
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to that particular point too, that
are narcissistic enough, that are out there
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enough that they abuse that that they
domestically abuse their partners. Yes, they're
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out there. You get a guy
that they know he won't hit women,
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and they will do things to provoke
him to try to make him hit them.
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Or they hit him and they know
that he's not going to hit them
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back. It's abuse. And then
that course then and of course they always
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fit mentally and emotionally manipulate. So, yes, there are men out there
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that are experiencing that there is don't
think that it's not don't think it's all
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just one side of that that there
are women out there doing this and there
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are women out that they are doing
it to other women. Yeah, it's
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wrong. No matter how you flip
it, how you cut it up,
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slice it and dice it. You
have to have the courage and a wherewithal
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to know your worth, to know
that you don't deserve to be treated less
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than you don't deserve to be treated
like you don't matter, because you do.
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If you don't know how to get
away, there are resources that are
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out there on the Internet that you
can call Anonligement anonymously that will help you
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get away. And I know some
of you think that, well, why
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don't they call the police? Or
sometimes you call the police and they don't
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wanna get involved, or they do, and you have those that sit and
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they they ignore the protective order altogether, and the police. The first thing
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the police will say well it's a
domestic matter where you both were fighting.
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Well he uh that they will say, well she hit me, I hit
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her, and they were like,
okay, it's a civil situation. We're
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not gonna get involved with it.
But that's not the case. And it's
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sad that there aren't enough laws on
the books, regardless of state or anything,
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that has something concrete to let you
know, to protect those who are
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victims of domestic violence, and a
lot of times they don't or won't do
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anything until it's too late. And
that's sad that it takes someone being almost
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unalived or being unlived in order for
the police to step in and do anything
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significant about it. How does that
make sense? Why aren't there more laws
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on the books in order for this? So that is why we have to
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dur any election times. We have
to bring things like this up into in
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our community forums, up to our
city councils, up to your DA's and
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all you know, when they're being
elected, so that these particular so more
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stricter laws and more concrete laws.
Let me say that more concrete laws can
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be possibly put in place to help
protect victims of domestic violence, because again,
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it should not take something dramatic happening
in order for the police or the
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courts to intervene. I'm sorry it
should not. So those who are victims,
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do what you need again, do
what you have to do to get
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away, or do what you need
to do to protect yourself. If you
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have babies, do what you need
to do to help protect yourself and your
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babies. And I've said this before
and I'm gonna say it again, and
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I mean this whole hearted cause again, if you nobody know, I'm not
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a a violent person. I don't
a bore violence. I mean our bore
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violence. I don't uh condone it
in any shape, form or fashion.
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But for those of you out there
who are want to abuse people physically and
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all, please run up on me
with your dig beaters up. Please run
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up on me. I got something
for you. Hit me like you hit
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that woman. Please do, please
do. Little boys, and I guess
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I'm calling you little boys. For
those of you who your males out there
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that that that seems to want to
do this, keep your hands off these
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women. You don't own these women. They're not your property. They are
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not your property. Hear me when
I say this, and listen to me.
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Well, they are not your property. For you grown boys, that
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means that you all out that who
are are of age and who know better.
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These women are not your property.
You know you, you know who
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I'm talking about. You know who
I'm talking to. For those of you
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in the sound of my voice right
now, who hear me, these women
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are not your property. Keep your
hands off. They are not. For
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those of you who are going through
all type of mentally and emotional abuse,
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do what you can to get away. Know your worth and and and and
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guard your peace, because that is
not love. That person can't sit there
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and tell you that they love you
and they doing everything they can to hurt
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you. Love is not supposed to
hurt. So if they're doing that to
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hurt you, they don't love you. Be by yourself and have a peace
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of mind and put up with that
type of foolishnance then because you do not
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deserve that. You don't deserve that. So again, there are resources out
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there. If you don't know how
to get away, there are resources out
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there. There are support groups that
are out there that will help you,
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that are on the Internet that will
help you get away if you need be.
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But you do not have to be
put up with that. One thing
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I'm gonna tell you that I taught
my daughters is never let no man or
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let no person put you in a
position to make you feel like you have
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to be with them, because you
don't be with that person because you want
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to be them. No one has
the right to make you feel like you
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have to be them because you don't. What a lot of them will try
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to do is get you and put
you in a position that will take you
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away or put a wage between you
and your support system that's you and your
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family, you and your friends,
and those that are close to you.
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They will draw weds between you and
them like that. That's their first thing.
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That next thing is now to separate
you from them completely. That means
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get you moved somewhere to where you
have that don't nobody, You don't know
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nobody or anything of that nature.
So now they have you there to Now
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you have no choice but to depend
on them. Now they have you because
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now they have you in a position
that they can do whatever, and they
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feel that they have their control over
you, and now you can't do anything
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about it because you are in their
way or where they want you, and
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you are now stuck don't let them
put you in their position at all.
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Keep your circle close, keep your
sport system close. Don't now allow them
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to separate you from your support system. No, of course, if it's
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anything that's contrary to what for your
support system and those who truly love you,
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and you know they truly love you, this person is not for you,
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then that person is not for you. Don't let them do it.
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Domestic violence, it has to go. It has to go. But it
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starts with us, cousins and Ken
folks. It starts with us. We
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have to be able to help look
out for each other because that is what
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we do as a family, that
is what we do as a community,
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and we are a community, all
right. I love y'all. I know
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I kind of got it in and
I I may a start a rant to
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get some particular point, but y'all
know you know me, You know I
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bore that because the ki folks were
gonna get ready to get on the body.
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Here again. We are back in
full swing. We will be back
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on our We had three episodes.
You got three episodes this week. You
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got three episodes this week. Cousins
and Ken folks, we'll be back on
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our regular scheduled days next week Tuesdays
and Fridays, so be on the lookout
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for it for those. For my
Spotify listeners, I'm not sure exactly what's
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going on with Spotify. If you've
been having trouble you haven't been receiving a
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podcast via Spotify. Something going on
with that, I'm not quite sure,
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but hopefully we can have that fixed
soon. But again, you can listen
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to us on all the other platforms
that wherever you listen to your podcast wherever
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you get them, or just having
an issue with Spotify right now for some
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reason, it's not accepting or it's
not being they're not being synced with our
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newer episode, so they're not broadcasting
for some reason. So hopefully we can
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get that figured out and fix soon. But again, you can still listen
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to us on Apple podcasts, Google
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public castro Castbox, Dezer, the
Spreaker app, which is our our hosting
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platform. You can stills on a
Spreaker app and also through our via our
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website at www dot under construction dot
com. So just be mindful of that,
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my Spotify listeners, So for right
now, you may have to move
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over to something different in order to
catch currently under construction. So once we
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have that issue fixed with Spotify,
I'll definitely update everyone. All Right,
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all right, cousins ki folks,
I'm gonna get ready to get on the
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body here. Remember coming up in
November, November fifteenth to December fifteenth is
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a holiday giveaway. November fifteenth to
December fifteenth. That's that's the timeframe for
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holiday giveaway. All right, all
right, cousins ken folks, get on
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in here with me. You know
what time it is. You know how
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we do it each and every time. You know what time it is.
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It takes a village to make this
thing happen, and you all are my
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village. And we're gonna continue to
build this thing together, you and I
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step by step, one break at
a time. Currently under construction. I
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love you all. I'll talk to
you all next week. Have an amazing
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weekend. Peace,
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Cousins, Ken folks, Happy Friday. How's everyone doing to day? Welcome
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to currently under construction. Thank you
so much for joining me. Man.
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It's a beautiful day outside, so
if you haven't been out and enjoying the
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great weather, get on out to
Dare. Get on out and take a
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ride, take a walk, whatever
it is that you're doing today, Just
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get out and enjoy yourself today because
hey, we know tomorrow's not promise to
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take any of us. Right now, before we get into the show,
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I want to send a shout out
to the Foster family in Las Vegas.
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Childhood friend of mine passed away on
yesterday. It was announced by her daughter
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and confirmed by her sister, who
I know personally as well. So I
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want to send a shout out to
the Foster family Tanisa and all of her
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daughters and her son and her grandchildren
and everything. She was a sweet lady.
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She had suffered quite a bit with
different ailments or whatnot, so she
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doesn't have to suffer anymore. So
again we want to send us and say
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prayers and condolences for her and her
loved ones and family. And we just
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prayed that, you know, in
this time of breathing right now that they
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are comforted that the Most High will
wrap his arms around them and comfort them
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and love on them and know that
she is in a much better place right
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now. So again we're going to
send shout out to the Foster slash Haley
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family. Resto Nisha, God,
continue to cover your family, your loved
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ones, and wrap you in His
bosom. All right, cousins and ken
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folks, We're gonna go on and
get on to it. Cousins, listen,
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the month of October is Breast cancer
and Domestic Violence Awareness month. Now,
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normally, if you've rocked with me
from day one, you know every
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year we're doing an episode of maybe
two about this. We haven't this month.
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We're just not getting around to it
because again we were on a hiatus
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and I want again once again we're
gonna touch based on that. So you
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all know. For those of you
who have followed me since day one or
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you know me personally, you know
that I'm a huge advocate in supporting any
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and all type of cancer research,
any of all type of cancer activities,
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any of all type of cancer organizations
or supporting groups or whatnot, and me
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being I cancer survivor myself. For
those of you who don't take the time
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to make sure that you get yourself
screamed. Ladies. I don't know what
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that's like personally, but I have
seen the effects of it, and I've
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known a couple of people who I
have been diagnosed with it, who've gone
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through, some who've made it,
some weren't so lucky. But early detection
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is definitely important. So ladies,
ladies, my sisters, my sisters,
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my cousins, my nieces, my
aunts, my mother's out there, please
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make sure you take the time to
go get yourself screamed and tested. You
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know, doesn't have to be at
a certain age. Don't wait till something
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happens or you feel something funny,
or whatever the case may be. Go
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get yourself screamed regularly, you know, along with your yearly to ensure that
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you are okay. Everything is good, And early detection is normally the best
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thing to do because you can just
get past that, you can get that
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treated taken care of and whatnot a
way ahead of time, instead of finding
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out too late and having to ravage
your body or perhaps even have a mistake
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to me in order to bypass this
dreadful disease. So again, my sisters.
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You know, just make sure that
you do whatever it is to take
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care of your your tatars. I'm
saying that as a jokingly right now,
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but I'm so serious at the same
time, because especially among black women in
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our community, it's such a hits
such a high rate. So ladies,
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my sisters, please, I implore
you, as your cousin who loves you
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all dearly, make sure you get
yourself screened and taking care of so that
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is that you won't have to experience
and go through and battle it in whatever
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the case may be. Because this
dreadful disease is out there. It is
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attacking us, It is attacking our
sisters in so many different ways. So
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so also you know, support you
know, breast cancer awareness, breast cancer
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organizations, breast cancer support. Go
out there and support in any way you
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can. Not just my sisters,
my brothers, you too, whether you
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can take care of participate in our
breast cancer awareness walk, wrathful, whatever
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the case may be, Let's ensure
that we get out there and we support
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in any and every way we can
share it, share that information, donate
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if you can, or if you
want to, whatever it takes. However
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you can you feel that you want
or to show support. Let's get out
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there and do that because it's very
important and it affects us all. So
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again, breast cancer Awareness. Let's
just ensure that we do everything that we
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can to help support our sisters out
here who are battling it, those who
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may have experienced it, and those
who may have overcome it. All right,
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I love y'all, I love you
dearly. Now I'm probably about to
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crank up a little bit because those
of you who know me, you know
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this is a touching subject for me. But this, the awareness for this
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on this month seems to always take
a back seat for some reason. So
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I want to bring it to the
forefront. So this month is also domestic
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Violence Awareness Month. Now, domestic
violence isn't always physical and be mental and
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emotional, and it can be all
three. But this uh, bringing awareness
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to this particular heinous act always seems
to take a back seat somehow or another
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to anything else that happens this month, even to Halloween. Well you know
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what I'm I'm from. I'm bringing
it to the forefront. So I want
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to send a message right now to
before I do that. Before I do
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that, I mean, let me
me really then cousins, Kennic Fold,
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y'all, just y'all just hanging there
with me. Domestic violence is wrong.
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There is no acceptance of it.
There is no well let's talk, hey.
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There's nothing about that that's right.
There's nothing about it that is okay.
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There is nothing about it that warrants
it. No woman or a man
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because don't think it don't happen to
me, and because it does. But
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no woman or no person has a
right to abuse you in any form,
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for whatever reason, for whatever twisted
thing that they may come to or think
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in their mind. There is no
reasoning for that, and it shouldn't be
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tolerated. It shouldn't be tolerated in
any shape, form or fashion. You,
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sisters that are out there that may
be experiencing this, you don't deserve
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that. Your children don't deserve to
see you hurt all the time. This
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person will will will manipulate and say
or or try to flip to make it
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seem like it's your fault. It's
not. It is not your fault.
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It's not your fault in any shape, form or fashion. That is all
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them, and you don't have to
accept it. You don't have to put
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up with it. At all.
They don't have the right to. They
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don't own you, they don't have
the right to have that power over you.
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You are not their slave. You
are not there in their their their
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dog, or anything of that particular
nature. You are not. And for
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those of you who who are who
do it that you think it's okay,
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you got another thing coming. Cause
again we all know you know me,
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you know I hate bullets. And
guess what. Those who do take the
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time to to exert try to exert
power over those that they feel that are
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weaker than them. You're a bully, you're a bully, but someone that's
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stronger than you, or that you
can't intimidate or whatever. These are the
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people that you bow down to.
These are the people that you back up
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from. And again, domestic abuse
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time it's mental and emotional. I
I knew his sister who dated this guy,
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and he was extremely abusive to her
mentally and emotionally. He'd always make
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everything seem like it was her fault
and it was her doing, and she
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would always sit and think and try
to say, what could she do to
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do better? Oh, she's sorry. He never took responsibility for anything that
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he did and whatever he did to
abuse her in any way, he flipped
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it like it was completely all her
fault when it wasn't. And when things
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continued to escalate and then became physical, and she even she thought of leaving,
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he'd always find someway of what buttons
to push to talk her back in,
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say oh, it's I'm sorry,
It'll never happened again. I'm sorry,
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I didn't mean to do that.
If you wouldn't have done x y
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Z, I wouldn't have done this
right here, never took responsibility. Even
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the apology was like he's was gaslighting
her. And she would come talk to
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me and talk to a couple of
other of our mutual friends about it,
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and we all said the same thing, you need to leave, you need
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to leave. But he says he
loves me. Love isn't supposed to hurt.
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Love's supposed to end up being a
closed fists. Love isn't supposed to
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be somebody that's dogging you, that's
down in you, that's you know,
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calling you everything under the sun just
to hold some type of power over you.
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And one minute they're like, oh
you, I just love you so
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much. I just don't want to
be without you, And then the next
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minute they're calling you out of your
name and hitting you. That's not love,
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that's not love. And it got
so bad to the point to where
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or she did have enough and she
wanted to leave. He took her life
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so she couldn't leave, because his
egotistical mind couldn't let her go and it
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wasn't on his accord, so he
took her life. Where is he now
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doing a life sentence in Louisiana State
Penitentiary. He'll never get it, he'll
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never see the streets again, and
he had no remorse about it in any
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shape, form or fashion. That
women did not deserve that. No woman
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who goes through that deserves that.
No man who goes through that deserves that.
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And now you sit here asking him
like, wait a minute, men
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are being domestically abused. Yes,
there are women out there that are now
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to that particular point too, that
are narcissistic enough, that are out there
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enough that they abuse that that they
domestically abuse their partners. Yes, they're
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out there. You get a guy
that they know he won't hit women,
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and they will do things to provoke
him to try to make him hit them.
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Or they hit him and they know
that he's not going to hit them
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back. It's abuse. And then
that course then and of course they always
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fit mentally and emotionally manipulate. So, yes, there are men out there
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that are experiencing that there is don't
think that it's not don't think it's all
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just one side of that that there
are women out there doing this and there
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are women out that they are doing
it to other women. Yeah, it's
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wrong. No matter how you flip
it, how you cut it up,
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slice it and dice it. You
have to have the courage and a wherewithal
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to know your worth, to know
that you don't deserve to be treated less
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than you don't deserve to be treated
like you don't matter, because you do.
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If you don't know how to get
away, there are resources that are
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out there on the Internet that you
can call Anonligement anonymously that will help you
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get away. And I know some
of you think that, well, why
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don't they call the police? Or
sometimes you call the police and they don't
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wanna get involved, or they do, and you have those that sit and
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they they ignore the protective order altogether, and the police. The first thing
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the police will say well it's a
domestic matter where you both were fighting.
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Well he uh that they will say, well she hit me, I hit
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her, and they were like,
okay, it's a civil situation. We're
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not gonna get involved with it.
But that's not the case. And it's
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sad that there aren't enough laws on
the books, regardless of state or anything,
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that has something concrete to let you
know, to protect those who are
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victims of domestic violence, and a
lot of times they don't or won't do
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anything until it's too late. And
that's sad that it takes someone being almost
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unalived or being unlived in order for
the police to step in and do anything
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significant about it. How does that
make sense? Why aren't there more laws
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on the books in order for this? So that is why we have to
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dur any election times. We have
to bring things like this up into in
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our community forums, up to our
city councils, up to your DA's and
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all you know, when they're being
elected, so that these particular so more
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stricter laws and more concrete laws.
Let me say that more concrete laws can
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be possibly put in place to help
protect victims of domestic violence, because again,
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it should not take something dramatic happening
in order for the police or the
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courts to intervene. I'm sorry it
should not. So those who are victims,
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do what you need again, do
what you have to do to get
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away, or do what you need
to do to protect yourself. If you
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have babies, do what you need
to do to help protect yourself and your
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babies. And I've said this before
and I'm gonna say it again, and
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I mean this whole hearted cause again, if you nobody know, I'm not
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a a violent person. I don't
a bore violence. I mean our bore
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violence. I don't uh condone it
in any shape, form or fashion.
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But for those of you out there
who are want to abuse people physically and
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all, please run up on me
with your dig beaters up. Please run
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up on me. I got something
for you. Hit me like you hit
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that woman. Please do, please
do. Little boys, and I guess
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I'm calling you little boys. For
those of you who your males out there
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that that that seems to want to
do this, keep your hands off these
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women. You don't own these women. They're not your property. They are
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not your property. Hear me when
I say this, and listen to me.
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Well, they are not your property. For you grown boys, that
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means that you all out that who
are are of age and who know better.
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These women are not your property.
You know you, you know who
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I'm talking about. You know who
I'm talking to. For those of you
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in the sound of my voice right
now, who hear me, these women
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are not your property. Keep your
hands off. They are not. For
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those of you who are going through
all type of mentally and emotional abuse,
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do what you can to get away. Know your worth and and and and
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guard your peace, because that is
not love. That person can't sit there
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and tell you that they love you
and they doing everything they can to hurt
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you. Love is not supposed to
hurt. So if they're doing that to
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hurt you, they don't love you. Be by yourself and have a peace
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of mind and put up with that
type of foolishnance then because you do not
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deserve that. You don't deserve that. So again, there are resources out
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there. If you don't know how
to get away, there are resources out
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there. There are support groups that
are out there that will help you,
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that are on the Internet that will
help you get away if you need be.
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But you do not have to be
put up with that. One thing
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I'm gonna tell you that I taught
my daughters is never let no man or
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let no person put you in a
position to make you feel like you have
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to be with them, because you
don't be with that person because you want
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to be them. No one has
the right to make you feel like you
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have to be them because you don't. What a lot of them will try
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to do is get you and put
you in a position that will take you
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away or put a wage between you
and your support system that's you and your
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family, you and your friends,
and those that are close to you.
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They will draw weds between you and
them like that. That's their first thing.
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That next thing is now to separate
you from them completely. That means
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get you moved somewhere to where you
have that don't nobody, You don't know
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nobody or anything of that nature.
So now they have you there to Now
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you have no choice but to depend
on them. Now they have you because
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now they have you in a position
that they can do whatever, and they
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feel that they have their control over
you, and now you can't do anything
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about it because you are in their
way or where they want you, and
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you are now stuck don't let them
put you in their position at all.
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Keep your circle close, keep your
sport system close. Don't now allow them
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to separate you from your support system. No, of course, if it's
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anything that's contrary to what for your
support system and those who truly love you,
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and you know they truly love you, this person is not for you,
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then that person is not for you. Don't let them do it.
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Domestic violence, it has to go. It has to go. But it
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starts with us, cousins and Ken
folks. It starts with us. We
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have to be able to help look
out for each other because that is what
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we do as a family, that
is what we do as a community,
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and we are a community, all
right. I love y'all. I know
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I kind of got it in and
I I may a start a rant to
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get some particular point, but y'all
know you know me, You know I
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bore that because the ki folks were
gonna get ready to get on the body.
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Here again. We are back in
full swing. We will be back
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on our We had three episodes.
You got three episodes this week. You
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got three episodes this week. Cousins
and Ken folks, we'll be back on
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our regular scheduled days next week Tuesdays
and Fridays, so be on the lookout
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for it for those. For my
Spotify listeners, I'm not sure exactly what's
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going on with Spotify. If you've
been having trouble you haven't been receiving a
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podcast via Spotify. Something going on
with that, I'm not quite sure,
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but hopefully we can have that fixed
soon. But again, you can listen
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to us on all the other platforms
that wherever you listen to your podcast wherever
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you get them, or just having
an issue with Spotify right now for some
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reason, it's not accepting or it's
not being they're not being synced with our
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newer episode, so they're not broadcasting
for some reason. So hopefully we can
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get that figured out and fix soon. But again, you can still listen
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to us on Apple podcasts, Google
Podcasts, Overcast, pocketcasts, Radio,
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public castro Castbox, Dezer, the
Spreaker app, which is our our hosting
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platform. You can stills on a
Spreaker app and also through our via our
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website at www dot under construction dot
com. So just be mindful of that,
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my Spotify listeners, So for right
now, you may have to move
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over to something different in order to
catch currently under construction. So once we
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have that issue fixed with Spotify,
I'll definitely update everyone. All Right,
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all right, cousins ki folks,
I'm gonna get ready to get on the
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body here. Remember coming up in
November, November fifteenth to December fifteenth is
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a holiday giveaway. November fifteenth to
December fifteenth. That's that's the timeframe for
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holiday giveaway. All right, all
right, cousins ken folks, get on
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in here with me. You know
what time it is. You know how
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we do it each and every time. You know what time it is.
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It takes a village to make this
thing happen, and you all are my
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village. And we're gonna continue to
build this thing together, you and I
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step by step, one break at
a time. Currently under construction. I
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love you all. I'll talk to
you all next week. Have an amazing
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weekend. Peace,





















