Breast Cancer Awareness/ Domestic Violence Awareness Month

0:01 Cousins, Ken folks, Happy Friday. How's everyone doing to day? Welcome to currently under construction. Thank you so much for joining me. Man. It's a beautiful day outside, so if you haven't been out and enjoying the great weather, get on out to Dare. Get on out and take a ride, take a walk, whatever it is that you're doing today, Just get out and enjoy yourself today because hey, we know tomorrow's not promise to take any of us. Right now, before we get into the show, I want to send a shout out to the Foster family in Las Vegas.

0:41 Childhood friend of mine passed away on yesterday. It was announced by her daughter and confirmed by her sister, who I know personally as well. So I want to send a shout out to the Foster family Tanisa and all of her daughters and her son and her grandchildren and everything. She was a sweet lady. She had suffered quite a bit with different ailments or whatnot, so she doesn't have to suffer anymore. So again we want to send us and say prayers and condolences for her and her loved ones and family. And we just prayed that, you know, in this time of breathing right now that they are comforted that the Most High will wrap his arms around them and comfort them and love on them and know that she is in a much better place right now. So again we're going to send shout out to the Foster slash Haley family. Resto Nisha, God, continue to cover your family, your loved ones, and wrap you in His bosom. All right, cousins and ken folks, We're gonna go on and get on to it. Cousins, listen, the month of October is Breast cancer and Domestic Violence Awareness month. Now, normally, if you've rocked with me from day one, you know every

2:12 year we're doing an episode of maybe two about this. We haven't this month. We're just not getting around to it because again we were on a hiatus and I want again once again we're gonna touch based on that. So you all know. For those of you who have followed me since day one or you know me personally, you know that I'm a huge advocate in supporting any and all type of cancer research, any of all type of cancer activities, any of all type of cancer organizations or supporting groups or whatnot, and me being I cancer survivor myself. For those of you who don't take the time to make sure that you get yourself screamed. Ladies. I don't know what that's like personally, but I have seen the effects of it, and I've known a couple of people who I have been diagnosed with it, who've gone through, some who've made it, some weren't so lucky. But early detection is definitely important. So ladies, ladies, my sisters, my sisters, my cousins, my nieces, my aunts, my mother's out there, please make sure you take the time to go get yourself screamed and tested. You know, doesn't have to be at a certain age. Don't wait till something happens or you feel something funny, or whatever the case may be. Go

3:45 get yourself screamed regularly, you know, along with your yearly to ensure that you are okay. Everything is good, And early detection is normally the best thing to do because you can just get past that, you can get that treated taken care of and whatnot a way ahead of time, instead of finding out too late and having to ravage your body or perhaps even have a mistake to me in order to bypass this dreadful disease. So again, my sisters. You know, just make sure that you do whatever it is to take care of your your tatars. I'm saying that as a jokingly right now, but I'm so serious at the same time, because especially among black women in our community, it's such a hits such a high rate. So ladies, my sisters, please, I implore you, as your cousin who loves you all dearly, make sure you get yourself screened and taking care of so that is that you won't have to experience and go through and battle it in whatever the case may be. Because this dreadful disease is out there. It is attacking us, It is attacking our sisters in so many different ways. So so also you know, support you know, breast cancer awareness, breast cancer

5:18 organizations, breast cancer support. Go out there and support in any way you can. Not just my sisters, my brothers, you too, whether you can take care of participate in our breast cancer awareness walk, wrathful, whatever the case may be, Let's ensure that we get out there and we support in any and every way we can share it, share that information, donate if you can, or if you want to, whatever it takes. However you can you feel that you want or to show support. Let's get out there and do that because it's very important and it affects us all. So again, breast cancer Awareness. Let's just ensure that we do everything that we can to help support our sisters out here who are battling it, those who may have experienced it, and those who may have overcome it. All right, I love y'all, I love you dearly. Now I'm probably about to crank up a little bit because those of you who know me, you know this is a touching subject for me. But this, the awareness for this on this month seems to always take a back seat for some reason. So I want to bring it to the forefront. So this month is also domestic

6:49 Violence Awareness Month. Now, domestic violence isn't always physical and be mental and emotional, and it can be all three. But this uh, bringing awareness to this particular heinous act always seems to take a back seat somehow or another to anything else that happens this month, even to Halloween. Well you know what I'm I'm from. I'm bringing it to the forefront. So I want to send a message right now to before I do that. Before I do that, I mean, let me me really then cousins, Kennic Fold, y'all, just y'all just hanging there with me. Domestic violence is wrong.

7:49 There is no acceptance of it. There is no well let's talk, hey. There's nothing about that that's right. There's nothing about it that is okay. There is nothing about it that warrants it. No woman or a man because don't think it don't happen to me, and because it does. But no woman or no person has a right to abuse you in any form, for whatever reason, for whatever twisted thing that they may come to or think in their mind. There is no reasoning for that, and it shouldn't be tolerated. It shouldn't be tolerated in any shape, form or fashion. You, sisters that are out there that may be experiencing this, you don't deserve that. Your children don't deserve to see you hurt all the time. This person will will will manipulate and say or or try to flip to make it seem like it's your fault. It's not. It is not your fault.

9:16 It's not your fault in any shape, form or fashion. That is all them, and you don't have to accept it. You don't have to put up with it. At all. They don't have the right to. They don't own you, they don't have the right to have that power over you. You are not their slave. You are not there in their their their dog, or anything of that particular nature. You are not. And for those of you who who are who do it that you think it's okay, you got another thing coming. Cause again we all know you know me, you know I hate bullets. And guess what. Those who do take the time to to exert try to exert power over those that they feel that are weaker than them. You're a bully, you're a bully, but someone that's stronger than you, or that you can't intimidate or whatever. These are the people that you bow down to. These are the people that you back up from. And again, domestic abuse isn't always physical. It's a lot of time it's mental and emotional. I I knew his sister who dated this guy, and he was extremely abusive to her mentally and emotionally. He'd always make

10:52 everything seem like it was her fault and it was her doing, and she would always sit and think and try to say, what could she do to do better? Oh, she's sorry. He never took responsibility for anything that he did and whatever he did to abuse her in any way, he flipped it like it was completely all her fault when it wasn't. And when things continued to escalate and then became physical, and she even she thought of leaving, he'd always find someway of what buttons to push to talk her back in, say oh, it's I'm sorry, It'll never happened again. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to do that. If you wouldn't have done x y Z, I wouldn't have done this right here, never took responsibility. Even the apology was like he's was gaslighting her. And she would come talk to me and talk to a couple of other of our mutual friends about it, and we all said the same thing, you need to leave, you need to leave. But he says he loves me. Love isn't supposed to hurt.

11:58 Love's supposed to end up being a closed fists. Love isn't supposed to be somebody that's dogging you, that's down in you, that's you know, calling you everything under the sun just to hold some type of power over you. And one minute they're like, oh you, I just love you so much. I just don't want to be without you, And then the next minute they're calling you out of your name and hitting you. That's not love, that's not love. And it got so bad to the point to where or she did have enough and she wanted to leave. He took her life so she couldn't leave, because his egotistical mind couldn't let her go and it wasn't on his accord, so he took her life. Where is he now doing a life sentence in Louisiana State Penitentiary. He'll never get it, he'll never see the streets again, and he had no remorse about it in any shape, form or fashion. That women did not deserve that. No woman who goes through that deserves that. No man who goes through that deserves that.

13:35 And now you sit here asking him like, wait a minute, men are being domestically abused. Yes, there are women out there that are now to that particular point too, that are narcissistic enough, that are out there enough that they abuse that that they domestically abuse their partners. Yes, they're out there. You get a guy that they know he won't hit women, and they will do things to provoke him to try to make him hit them. Or they hit him and they know that he's not going to hit them back. It's abuse. And then that course then and of course they always fit mentally and emotionally manipulate. So, yes, there are men out there that are experiencing that there is don't think that it's not don't think it's all just one side of that that there are women out there doing this and there are women out that they are doing it to other women. Yeah, it's wrong. No matter how you flip it, how you cut it up, slice it and dice it. You have to have the courage and a wherewithal to know your worth, to know that you don't deserve to be treated less than you don't deserve to be treated like you don't matter, because you do.

15:03 If you don't know how to get away, there are resources that are out there on the Internet that you can call Anonligement anonymously that will help you get away. And I know some of you think that, well, why don't they call the police? Or sometimes you call the police and they don't wanna get involved, or they do, and you have those that sit and they they ignore the protective order altogether, and the police. The first thing the police will say well it's a domestic matter where you both were fighting. Well he uh that they will say, well she hit me, I hit her, and they were like, okay, it's a civil situation. We're not gonna get involved with it. But that's not the case. And it's sad that there aren't enough laws on the books, regardless of state or anything, that has something concrete to let you know, to protect those who are victims of domestic violence, and a lot of times they don't or won't do anything until it's too late. And that's sad that it takes someone being almost unalived or being unlived in order for the police to step in and do anything significant about it. How does that make sense? Why aren't there more laws on the books in order for this? So that is why we have to

16:41 dur any election times. We have to bring things like this up into in our community forums, up to our city councils, up to your DA's and all you know, when they're being elected, so that these particular so more stricter laws and more concrete laws. Let me say that more concrete laws can be possibly put in place to help protect victims of domestic violence, because again, it should not take something dramatic happening in order for the police or the courts to intervene. I'm sorry it should not. So those who are victims, do what you need again, do what you have to do to get away, or do what you need to do to protect yourself. If you have babies, do what you need to do to help protect yourself and your babies. And I've said this before and I'm gonna say it again, and I mean this whole hearted cause again, if you nobody know, I'm not a a violent person. I don't a bore violence. I mean our bore violence. I don't uh condone it in any shape, form or fashion.

18:11 But for those of you out there who are want to abuse people physically and all, please run up on me with your dig beaters up. Please run up on me. I got something for you. Hit me like you hit that woman. Please do, please do. Little boys, and I guess I'm calling you little boys. For those of you who your males out there that that that seems to want to do this, keep your hands off these women. You don't own these women. They're not your property. They are not your property. Hear me when I say this, and listen to me.

19:04 Well, they are not your property. For you grown boys, that means that you all out that who are are of age and who know better. These women are not your property. You know you, you know who I'm talking about. You know who I'm talking to. For those of you in the sound of my voice right now, who hear me, these women are not your property. Keep your hands off. They are not. For those of you who are going through all type of mentally and emotional abuse, do what you can to get away. Know your worth and and and and guard your peace, because that is not love. That person can't sit there and tell you that they love you and they doing everything they can to hurt you. Love is not supposed to hurt. So if they're doing that to hurt you, they don't love you. Be by yourself and have a peace of mind and put up with that type of foolishnance then because you do not deserve that. You don't deserve that. So again, there are resources out there. If you don't know how to get away, there are resources out there. There are support groups that are out there that will help you, that are on the Internet that will help you get away if you need be.

20:34 But you do not have to be put up with that. One thing I'm gonna tell you that I taught my daughters is never let no man or let no person put you in a position to make you feel like you have to be with them, because you don't be with that person because you want to be them. No one has the right to make you feel like you have to be them because you don't. What a lot of them will try to do is get you and put you in a position that will take you away or put a wage between you and your support system that's you and your family, you and your friends, and those that are close to you. They will draw weds between you and them like that. That's their first thing.

21:18 That next thing is now to separate you from them completely. That means get you moved somewhere to where you have that don't nobody, You don't know nobody or anything of that nature. So now they have you there to Now you have no choice but to depend on them. Now they have you because now they have you in a position that they can do whatever, and they feel that they have their control over you, and now you can't do anything about it because you are in their way or where they want you, and you are now stuck don't let them put you in their position at all. Keep your circle close, keep your sport system close. Don't now allow them to separate you from your support system. No, of course, if it's anything that's contrary to what for your support system and those who truly love you, and you know they truly love you, this person is not for you, then that person is not for you. Don't let them do it.

22:25 Domestic violence, it has to go. It has to go. But it starts with us, cousins and Ken folks. It starts with us. We have to be able to help look out for each other because that is what we do as a family, that is what we do as a community, and we are a community, all right. I love y'all. I know I kind of got it in and I I may a start a rant to get some particular point, but y'all know you know me, You know I bore that because the ki folks were gonna get ready to get on the body.

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24:40 body here. Remember coming up in November, November fifteenth to December fifteenth is a holiday giveaway. November fifteenth to December fifteenth. That's that's the timeframe for holiday giveaway. All right, all right, cousins ken folks, get on in here with me. You know what time it is. You know how we do it each and every time. You know what time it is. It takes a village to make this thing happen, and you all are my village. And we're gonna continue to build this thing together, you and I step by step, one break at a time. Currently under construction. I love you all. I'll talk to you all next week. Have an amazing weekend. Peace,