Continued Healing

0:01 Cousins, ken folks, get on in here. Welcome to the newest episode of your favorite podcast and minecarently in the construction. Thank you all so much for joining us today. It is a beautiful day. And why it's a beautiful day maybe because it's raining, it's a little gloomy outside, it's a little cool, but it's the perfect weather. But it's time in here. But that's not why it's a beautiful day. It's a beautiful day because I get to hang out with my cousins and kin folks. And it's a beautiful day because it's another unpromised day that we forgiven by the most High. So just make sure that we appreciate that. Man, I'm so glad that if you are to join me today. Look, we gonna just jump right on into it. I am. I'm not gonna run my mouth too much, but we're gonna get on right into this episode. So what I wanna uh sit down and talk with you all about today because the kin folks is continued healing and continue healing. So I know some of you may know what that is and some of you may be like, waitful, what do you mean continue heal? I mean either you're healing or not well. I mean when you're in the process of healing from whatever it is that you're healing from.

1:14 It is a process. It takes time. So for instance, if you break bones, right and you go to the hospital, you know whether you have to have it surgically repaired or it's just a clean break that all they need to do is just set it in a cast and immobilize it temporarily in order for that bone to knit back together and to begin to heal. Right, So when that bone has knitted back together, they'll remove that cast, but you still have to be careful. So now there comes to rehab of that that bone that you broke. Now, even though it's healed, you still and can use it, you still can't use it to its full capacity just yet. So there comes the process of continued healing, continued healing, continued of doing things that will help strengthen that bone and where that break was, and so that you will have full use of that hand or arm or leg or whatever it is that you may have broken. Well, continued healing, it's the same way. You have to continue to work on that.

2:42 That is an ongoing process. It's not something that's going to happen overnight. And it's nothing that you can take a pail for or some type of elixir or anything of that nature. It's an ongoing process because it's a kins, folks, And I'm here to tell you the traumas that we experience in life, whether they're childhood traumas, adult traumas, or whatever the case may be, or something that may have happened in your teens, regardless of the trauma that we experience, we have to go through the process of healing from it because if not, it's going to affect us down the line. You're right, you're with me. It's going to affect us down the line and going forward. So we have to constantly work on that, you know what I mean. It's an ongoing process each and every day. You have to be able to do a little something each day to keep going forward. You know.

3:55 Like we've talked about before, cousins can folks, progress is still progress, regardless of how small it is. You're still moving forward, and let's keep moving forward, you see. Okay, For example, so many childhood traumas that I've experienced, and I've talked to you all about this, and you all know I can talk to you about it. I can talk to you all about anything because y'all my people, y'all my family, y'all my community. So even when the childhood some of the childhood dramas I went through, it took me years to recognize it and so forth, because, like we've talked about before, growing up in our community, especially as a black male, you're growing up in a black community, when you go through things or things happen to you, you are expected to push that down. You expected to just deal with it and keep going. You're not expected to deal with that in whatever way that you need to. You're expected to take that, push it down, man up, so to speak, and keep going, especially as a black male, you expect it to be hard twenty four seven. But how is that possible? That can only last so long?

5:18 I've seen some of the so called hardest dudes that I knew coming up cry like a baby, but they've never been allowed to do so, because again, we've been conditioned from a young age that you're not supposed to show any emotions. You're not supposed to show any type of weakness because you're a man. But that that's not what makes you a man, You are a human being. Every human being will cry or grieve. Every human being goes through things us men and women, boys and girls. So we still need to contend for those of us who were raised in that. We're working on that right now. I'm still working on that right now. I'll be the first to tell you I am you know when I think I have a hand on it, I mean, I'm just like I have to call my therapist and like, hey, Sad, I need to talk. But I need to be able to deal with that. But again, we're conditioned that way.

6:30 Our Black women, they're conditioned to just be the and a hold and and and be all to be the pillar the of not just her family, but the whole community. But she's not allowed to be soft, even though she's made to be so. But our women aren't allowed to be soft. And then to top it off, especially nowadays, they're not feeling protected period, in no shape, form or fashion by us. Brothers. We're slipping. And that's that's gonna be an upcoming episode this season on Carol in the Construction.

7:11 We're brothers. I'm gonna talk to I'm gonna talk to y'all, and we're gonna have a conversation. I have a dialogue with someone that's gonna be a guest on the show, and we're gonna have a dialogue about how our women aren't being protected. He wrote an article on it, and he actually did a video on it. So I'm definitely looking forward to that episode with that guest and that sit down dialogue with that guest. I'm not gonna tell you who it is. You just have to continue to tune in and see. But you do not want to miss that episode when it comes up. And I'm gonna definitely let you all know when that episode is coming. So again, be on the lookout for their cousins and ken folks. But it's just it's just something that we don't So we have to continue to work on healing. We have to continue to move forward, continue healing, you know, And we need this. I mean not just for our family. We need this for us in order to be able to continue to function as we should and deal with everyday life, to be able to have good relationships and not just personal relationships, work relationships, business relationships, friend relationships. We need in order for us to have those successful relationships, we have to continue healing. It is a must. It is a must. It is a

8:48 must. We have to continue healing. Cousins and ken folks. I'm here to tell you it doesn't stop. That is an ongoing thing. But you can't. You don't have to do it alone. And that's the key right there. You don't have to do it. We don't have to do this alone. That's why God gave us each other. You don't have to do this alone. Find like minded people that you can talk to, people that are trustworthy enough that you can talk to. Find you a good therapist that you can sit down with and that you can be you can can open up to about these things that will help give you the tools you need to move forward. Find you a good support group that you all can together have dialogue about this and that and the things that you're going through, and the things and keys that you can do to help your healing and help each other.

10:00 And that's what it's about. That's what it's about. See, that's something we don't do anymore, you know what I mean. And we've talked about this before the village. That's something we don't do it. I had this conversation with a friend recently we don't do this anymore. I still long for the days, and I think it can come back, even though some people say it won't it'll never be like that again. I do believe it will come back. I do think it still exists to where we are not so selfish, to where we as a community look out for each other, are there for each other. I remember when my mama was sending me over to her friend Martha, her best friend at that time, send her over there to borrow some sugar and some oil. And Miss Martha was like, Hey, ask your mama. She could send me a package by pack of meat, a pack of chicken, or some steaks or something like that. And I go, do the same with my mama, tell me sending that back over that with me by her, or we all put in together different ingredients and stuff to make one big old, huge meal that's shared between both or if not more households than those two. I remember those days, and that was that's what it was all about. Find your tribe, find your community,

11:37 cousins and ken folks that you can that will pour into you, that will help you along the way in your continued journey of healing. It doesn't have to be a huge amount of people. It could be two or three people, it could be just be you and that particular a person. Whatever the case may be, it's it's you. You have the power to do so. You don't have to continue to deal with or or be affected negatively by the things that you've gone through in life, or that have hurt you or that have happened to you. You don't have to. You don't have to keep making the same mistakes. We don't have to keep making the same mistakes that we made because we're still fearful from those traumas and things that we went through early in our lives. We don't have to. That's including me.

12:48 It starts with me. I know, I know it starts with me. I definitely have to. But each day I do my best and try then to uh to do so. Each day I continue to try to take another step and my journey of continued healing. I just bought a hoodie recently that has on it currently healing, and that means so much to me. You can get that and a whole lot of other merchandise at healingminds dot com.

13:28 You can also find it on social media on Facebook and Instagram. I'll make sure that I add that link into this episode of podcasts But Healing Minds Too, Healing Minds too, Good friend, Sanji Tarboro, Hey Sanji, Yeah, I just recently bought that and and that that speaks volumes to me because I am currently healing and you can be. Also, don't stop. Don't let anybody get in your ear telling you or you can't, or that's not something you should be doing, or you're crazy, or the term that y'all know I despise more than anything. Oh, just get out your feelings.

14:16 You'll be all right. No, don't listen to these people. Don't listen to these people. Do what you need to do for your continued healing so you can have a peace of mind, so you can have better relationships with your children, with your spouse, with your coworkers, with your business with the most high Yeah. Yeah, I whold hardly believe this. You can do this. You got this. It is within you. But surround yourself with like minded people, positive minded people who want to see you do good, who want to see you be better than you are, who want to see you go from the one level to the next, who want to see you like I said, go to that next level that God has for you. Who want to see you achieve all of your dreams, all of your goals and more. Surround yourself by these people and so many doors, and everything will open and beginning to open up for you. But let's remember who we have to keep first and foremost. We have to keep the most

15:48 high, first and foremost in our lives. We have to keep God first and foremost. We do that, he will in turn help us put those particular people in position for us to begin to help move on our behalf on our journey of continued healing. Don't believe me. Just watch do everything that I've I've just been talking about, and just watch. I'm telling you he'll do it. He'll do it, all right, cousins Ken folks, Like I said, this wasn't gonna be like I'm gonna get on up out of your way. Remember we do this every Uh. We didn't have the episode Tuesday, so technically this episode was supposed to air yesterday. I ended up having to rerecord it, so this is technically Tuesday's episode, but we will definitely have our Friday episode, so be on the lookout for that. Cousin Ken folks, and remember you can get us wherever you listen to your podcast.

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18:22 Grandma. Get those in and we're gonna have our drawing on December twentieth, and then we're gonna get everything dispersed out, all right, cousins and ken folks. All right, well, look, I'm gonna get on up out of here, you know, so y'all get on in here with me. You know what time it is, y'all, come on, get on in here, because no I model takes the village to make this thing happen, and you all are my village. And we're gonna continue to build this thing together, you and I, step by step, one brick at a time, currently under construction. I love you all dearly. I will talk to you all the time a couple of days. Peace,