Continued Healing

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Cousins, ken folks, get on
in here. Welcome to the newest episode

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of your favorite podcast and minecarently in
the construction. Thank you all so much

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for joining us today. It is
a beautiful day. And why it's a

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beautiful day maybe because it's raining,
it's a little gloomy outside, it's a

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little cool, but it's the perfect
weather. But it's time in here.

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But that's not why it's a beautiful
day. It's a beautiful day because I

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get to hang out with my cousins
and kin folks. And it's a beautiful

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day because it's another unpromised day that
we forgiven by the most High. So

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just make sure that we appreciate that. Man, I'm so glad that if

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you are to join me today.
Look, we gonna just jump right on

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into it. I am. I'm
not gonna run my mouth too much,

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but we're gonna get on right into
this episode. So what I wanna uh

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sit down and talk with you all
about today because the kin folks is continued

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healing and continue healing. So I
know some of you may know what that

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is and some of you may be
like, waitful, what do you mean

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continue heal? I mean either you're
healing or not well. I mean when

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you're in the process of healing from
whatever it is that you're healing from.

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It is a process. It takes
time. So for instance, if you

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break bones, right and you go
to the hospital, you know whether you

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have to have it surgically repaired or
it's just a clean break that all they

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need to do is just set it
in a cast and immobilize it temporarily in

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order for that bone to knit back
together and to begin to heal. Right,

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So when that bone has knitted back
together, they'll remove that cast,

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but you still have to be careful. So now there comes to rehab of

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that that bone that you broke.
Now, even though it's healed, you

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still and can use it, you
still can't use it to its full capacity

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just yet. So there comes the
process of continued healing, continued healing,

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continued of doing things that will help
strengthen that bone and where that break was,

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and so that you will have full
use of that hand or arm or

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leg or whatever it is that you
may have broken. Well, continued healing,

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it's the same way. You have
to continue to work on that.

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That is an ongoing process. It's
not something that's going to happen overnight.

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And it's nothing that you can take
a pail for or some type of elixir

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or anything of that nature. It's
an ongoing process because it's a kins,

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folks, And I'm here to tell
you the traumas that we experience in life,

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whether they're childhood traumas, adult traumas, or whatever the case may be,

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or something that may have happened in
your teens, regardless of the trauma

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that we experience, we have to
go through the process of healing from it

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because if not, it's going to
affect us down the line. You're right,

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you're with me. It's going to
affect us down the line and going

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forward. So we have to constantly
work on that, you know what I

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mean. It's an ongoing process each
and every day. You have to be

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able to do a little something each
day to keep going forward. You know.

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Like we've talked about before, cousins
can folks, progress is still progress,

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regardless of how small it is.
You're still moving forward, and let's

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keep moving forward, you see.
Okay, For example, so many childhood

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traumas that I've experienced, and I've
talked to you all about this, and

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you all know I can talk to
you about it. I can talk to

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you all about anything because y'all my
people, y'all my family, y'all my

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community. So even when the childhood
some of the childhood dramas I went through,

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it took me years to recognize it
and so forth, because, like

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we've talked about before, growing up
in our community, especially as a black

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male, you're growing up in a
black community, when you go through things

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or things happen to you, you
are expected to push that down. You

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expected to just deal with it and
keep going. You're not expected to deal

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with that in whatever way that you
need to. You're expected to take that,

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push it down, man up,
so to speak, and keep going,

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especially as a black male, you
expect it to be hard twenty four

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seven. But how is that possible? That can only last so long?

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I've seen some of the so called
hardest dudes that I knew coming up cry

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like a baby, but they've never
been allowed to do so, because again,

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we've been conditioned from a young age
that you're not supposed to show any

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emotions. You're not supposed to show
any type of weakness because you're a man.

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But that that's not what makes you
a man, You are a human

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being. Every human being will cry
or grieve. Every human being goes through

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things us men and women, boys
and girls. So we still need to

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contend for those of us who were
raised in that. We're working on that

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right now. I'm still working on
that right now. I'll be the first

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to tell you I am you know
when I think I have a hand on

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it, I mean, I'm just
like I have to call my therapist and

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like, hey, Sad, I
need to talk. But I need to

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be able to deal with that.
But again, we're conditioned that way.

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Our Black women, they're conditioned to
just be the and a hold and and

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and be all to be the pillar
the of not just her family, but

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the whole community. But she's not
allowed to be soft, even though she's

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made to be so. But our
women aren't allowed to be soft. And

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then to top it off, especially
nowadays, they're not feeling protected period,

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in no shape, form or fashion
by us. Brothers. We're slipping.

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And that's that's gonna be an upcoming
episode this season on Carol in the Construction.

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We're brothers. I'm gonna talk to
I'm gonna talk to y'all, and

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we're gonna have a conversation. I
have a dialogue with someone that's gonna be

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a guest on the show, and
we're gonna have a dialogue about how our

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women aren't being protected. He wrote
an article on it, and he actually

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did a video on it. So
I'm definitely looking forward to that episode with

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that guest and that sit down dialogue
with that guest. I'm not gonna tell

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you who it is. You just
have to continue to tune in and see.

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But you do not want to miss
that episode when it comes up.

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And I'm gonna definitely let you all
know when that episode is coming. So

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again, be on the lookout for
their cousins and ken folks. But it's

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just it's just something that we don't
So we have to continue to work on

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healing. We have to continue to
move forward, continue healing, you know,

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And we need this. I mean
not just for our family. We

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need this for us in order to
be able to continue to function as we

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should and deal with everyday life,
to be able to have good relationships and

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not just personal relationships, work relationships, business relationships, friend relationships. We

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need in order for us to have
those successful relationships, we have to continue

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healing. It is a must.
It is a must. It is a

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must. We have to continue healing. Cousins and ken folks. I'm here

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to tell you it doesn't stop.
That is an ongoing thing. But you

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can't. You don't have to do
it alone. And that's the key right

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there. You don't have to do
it. We don't have to do this

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alone. That's why God gave us
each other. You don't have to do

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this alone. Find like minded people
that you can talk to, people that

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are trustworthy enough that you can talk
to. Find you a good therapist that

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you can sit down with and that
you can be you can can open up

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to about these things that will help
give you the tools you need to move

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forward. Find you a good support
group that you all can together have dialogue

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about this and that and the things
that you're going through, and the things

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and keys that you can do to
help your healing and help each other.

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And that's what it's about. That's
what it's about. See, that's something

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we don't do anymore, you know
what I mean. And we've talked about

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this before the village. That's something
we don't do it. I had this

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conversation with a friend recently we don't
do this anymore. I still long for

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the days, and I think it
can come back, even though some people

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say it won't it'll never be like
that again. I do believe it will

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come back. I do think it
still exists to where we are not so

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selfish, to where we as a
community look out for each other, are

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there for each other. I remember
when my mama was sending me over to

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her friend Martha, her best friend
at that time, send her over there

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to borrow some sugar and some oil. And Miss Martha was like, Hey,

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ask your mama. She could send
me a package by pack of meat,

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a pack of chicken, or some
steaks or something like that. And

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I go, do the same with
my mama, tell me sending that back

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over that with me by her,
or we all put in together different ingredients

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and stuff to make one big old, huge meal that's shared between both or

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if not more households than those two. I remember those days, and that

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was that's what it was all about. Find your tribe, find your community,

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cousins and ken folks that you can
that will pour into you, that

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will help you along the way in
your continued journey of healing. It doesn't

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have to be a huge amount of
people. It could be two or three

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people, it could be just be
you and that particular a person. Whatever

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the case may be, it's it's
you. You have the power to do

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so. You don't have to continue
to deal with or or be affected negatively

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by the things that you've gone through
in life, or that have hurt you

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or that have happened to you.
You don't have to. You don't have

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to keep making the same mistakes.
We don't have to keep making the same

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mistakes that we made because we're still
fearful from those traumas and things that we

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went through early in our lives.
We don't have to. That's including me.

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It starts with me. I know, I know it starts with me.

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I definitely have to. But each
day I do my best and try

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then to uh to do so.
Each day I continue to try to take

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another step and my journey of continued
healing. I just bought a hoodie recently

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that has on it currently healing,
and that means so much to me.

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You can get that and a whole
lot of other merchandise at healingminds dot com.

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You can also find it on social
media on Facebook and Instagram. I'll

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make sure that I add that link
into this episode of podcasts But Healing Minds

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Too, Healing Minds too, Good
friend, Sanji Tarboro, Hey Sanji,

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Yeah, I just recently bought that
and and that that speaks volumes to me

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because I am currently healing and you
can be. Also, don't stop.

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Don't let anybody get in your ear
telling you or you can't, or that's

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not something you should be doing,
or you're crazy, or the term that

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y'all know I despise more than anything. Oh, just get out your feelings.

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You'll be all right. No,
don't listen to these people. Don't

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listen to these people. Do what
you need to do for your continued healing

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so you can have a peace of
mind, so you can have better relationships

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with your children, with your spouse, with your coworkers, with your business

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with the most high Yeah. Yeah, I whold hardly believe this. You

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can do this. You got this. It is within you. But surround

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yourself with like minded people, positive
minded people who want to see you do

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good, who want to see you
be better than you are, who want

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to see you go from the one
level to the next, who want to

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see you like I said, go
to that next level that God has for

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you. Who want to see you
achieve all of your dreams, all of

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your goals and more. Surround yourself
by these people and so many doors,

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and everything will open and beginning to
open up for you. But let's remember

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who we have to keep first and
foremost. We have to keep the most

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high, first and foremost in our
lives. We have to keep God first

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and foremost. We do that,
he will in turn help us put those

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particular people in position for us to
begin to help move on our behalf on

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our journey of continued healing. Don't
believe me. Just watch do everything that

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I've I've just been talking about,
and just watch. I'm telling you he'll

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do it. He'll do it,
all right, cousins Ken folks, Like

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I said, this wasn't gonna be
like I'm gonna get on up out of

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your way. Remember we do this
every Uh. We didn't have the episode

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Tuesday, so technically this episode was
supposed to air yesterday. I ended up

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having to rerecord it, so this
is technically Tuesday's episode, but we will

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definitely have our Friday episode, so
be on the lookout for that. Cousin

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folks. All right, well,
look, I'm gonna get on up out

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of here, you know, so
y'all get on in here with me.

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You know what time it is,
y'all, come on, get on in

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here, because no I model takes
the village to make this thing happen,

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and you all are my village.
And we're gonna continue to build this thing

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together, you and I, step
by step, one brick at a time,

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currently under construction. I love you
all dearly. I will talk to

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you all the time a couple of
days. Peace,