Domestic Violence Awareness

0:01 What's Good, What's Good? What's Good? Cousins and king folks, and it is your favorite podcast and mine. Welcome back, Welcome back to the newest episode currently under construction. I am your host. Thank you so much for joining us today. Man, I hope everybody said having a great day to day. You've been able to get up, you know, do a little something, get yourself together, half a peace of mind and a little bit of shot on to today. Man, it's a beautiful day outside. The sun and shine and holiday a cloud and the sky man, temperature like it's gonna be pretty great today. So look, if you're not doing anything, you might want to get up, get out and do something, if not for yourself, with your loved one, with your family, with your kids, whatever the case may be, just get out and do a little something for yourself and enjoy this beautiful day. Why because we only get today, we're not guarantee you tomorrow, and we definitely can't go back to yesterday.

0:54 Man, it's good to hear from me all again. Man. I know it's been a minute. We had some things going on that we had to reconfigure um behind the scenes for currently under construction, but we are back. We're back on track back for you. So look, I know y'all been wondering, you've been messaging, you've been asking, we're back. I'm sorry it took me so long because the can't folks with y'all to my head and not my help. But you know I got y'all and I love y'all. Look, we're we're going towards the end of the month of October, and I hadn't touched based on this, yes ship, but I knew that I would because you are asking about it. Not only is it Breast Cancer Awareness Month, it is also domestic violence Awareness Month. Now, whether we talk about it or not, we don't talk about it, we slipped up under the rug, or we just ignore it. It is there, It exists, and a whareness needs to be brought to it as much as possible.

1:55 So much happens on so many different levels when dealing with domestic violence, and domestic violence isn't always um physical. Domestic violence also can be mental, emotional, and so forth. But for the most part, regardless to the fact of whatever form that it flows in that it comes in, bottom line is it's not cool. Bottom line is it's not right. Bottom line is it's a play that's been around as long as most of us knew, most of us remember, And um, what I want to try to bring a light to today is let's stop normalizing it. Well what do you mean, Oh, well, I'm glad you asked. I'm gonna tell you. Growing up, a lot of this we've seen, especially you know, way even way back in the days, even before you know, most of us, those of you who are in a Gen X bracket along with myself, and even before you know the baby bummers or whatnot. Um, it was normalized, it was expected, or it was put off saying, oh, that's just a man being a man. Well, no, that doesn't make that right. It doesn't. It doesn't make it right in any shape form of fashion. And a lot of us saw this or it was Um may have

3:28 grew up in those particular type of homes for that particular toxic behavior, and I think that it was normal. Well, there's nothing normal about that. And it's a psychle that we definitely have to detect the initiative and take the time to break, because we already deal with a lot throughout days, throughout each and every day, man and woman. But it still doesn't give the right for that man or slash that woman and prior to contract with contrary belief, domestic violence isn't always man on woman. Sometimes it is woman on man.

4:16 You know something. You probably sit there scratching your head like wait what Yeah, sometimes it's woman on man or how can it be put a pin in that? Right now, I'm gonna come back to that, Okay, says stay with me, y'all. You already know how I'm gonna do. Cousins and king folks, y'all know if I bring something up and say put a pen in, I'm gonna come from a circle back to it, and I'm gonna tired all together for you. But right now, just walk with me on this right here, right now, because this is a topic that is um they're in dear to me. This is a topic that um, I'm an advocate um about, you know, in promoting awareness to domestic violence, want to get to stop one of those that are stuck in it, that are trapped in it, to get help because again it comes in so many different forms. But again we need to stop normalizing that. Because I see where I grew up and how I grew up in the neighborhood. I did see, I saw a lot of it, but at the spite of the same token and um, how I was brought up. You couldn't do that in front of me, because see, we were talked to protect women at all costs. I was taught to protect women, protect your sisters, protect your older sisters, protect your mom, protect your grandma, protect your aunties. So it was a thing for me to protect the women that were around me or that I saw from any type of physical home. I remember,

5:49 Um, this guy one of my older sisters dated, and you know, now, don't get me wrong, my older sister's older system controul a hand to her step because that's who taught me how to defend myself, me and a couple other of our of our siblings, but she taught us something held her ourself. But this guy, and he was much bigger than her. But I saw him make the attempt to slap because they were arguing. He made the attempt to slap her, and she lit into him so quick. He didn't even know what happened with was coming from or what the heck was going on. But um, at that moment, he even me seeing him attempting to hit my sister. I immediately picked up the nearest things that I could put my hands on, which I saw at that time was a baseball bet and then't want to go we wear him out with it. But now my sister stopped me, you know, and he went on about his business or whatever what not, you know, but she thanked me for um coming to a riscue. But she was like, I got that handled, you know. Don't don't worry about that little brother. You know, I'm good, I said, But I'm just doing what I told me to do, you know, to always protect my sister's mouth. Honestly said, you can see it, and that's what you're supposed to do at all times.

7:03 But I got I had him. But um, I digress, y'all. But it was just the fact of seeing that at that particular moment and that that that stuck with me. And so I always have had that mentality to uh protect the women around me from domestic violence. Now, there have been times and I've seen this on the flip side and it really just blew my mind. And seeing it, I've seen it on the flip side of you're going to step up and protect a woman from domestic violence and she and then turns on you. Yeah, I've seen that that she didn't turns on you, were like, well, why did you do that? You didn't have to do that to him. But people that are stuck in those particular type of situations, I don't know how to get out of that. They're so used to that particular type toxic uh sit A situation that's a particular type of toxic environment and relationship that they don't know how to get They think that that person doesn't love them, unless that's actually happening. But those people still need help because again that is that there's nothing about that that's right. That's nothing about that that's right at all. M I've even heard and we need to get out of this as well. I've even heard it one particular point that

8:37 you know, not that I try to get in any person's business, but when I hear that, and this is they'll listen to me good, because it's a kin focusing and I need you to listen to me good, and listen to me close and listen to me well. When I've heard before saying and we need to stop saying this. When and even when people say this, we still need to try to help as much as we can. What happens between that man and that woman is between that man and that woman. Sometimes that's the case, but in a situation like this, that is not the case. It's stuff like that we need to break. It's that's that's how those generational curses continue on and going forward. That's how they continue on and keep going forward. True enough, most things between a man and women betwext is between that man and that woman. But if he's beating on her or she's beating on him, nah, something needs to be done about that.

9:39 Awareness is to be brought to that that that that that they need help, because again that's a toxic environment, a toxic situation. And then they'll affect your children, because if your children see this, they'll begin to think it's normalized. If your children see this, they're going to begin to hate and resent one parent or another, if not both. If your children see this, and especially if it gets bad, one of these children could end up intervening and do something real detrimental, especially if it's a sign. Even a daughter. But they get tired of saying their mother being attacked, being beaten on, it everything, and they'll do what they can just to get it to stop. Domestic violence is not cool. Domestic violence is not normal.

10:50 Domestic violence it's a toxic, sickening disease that we need as a community as a whole. Cousin's in king folks, to cut it out, to extract it and completely eradicated. You hear me, Time is out for that. There is nothing loving about that. There is nothing loving or showing love. Um, when you have a man or a woman beating the holy heck out of somebody and then you're saying, oh, it's okay, they just loved me. They didn't mean to do it, Yes they did, Yes they did. If that's love, you to be arguing with me, to be little in me emotionally, mentally, and physically. On top of that, and if they're supposed to constitute you loving me, if that you loving me, hate my guts, seriously hate my guts. If that warrants or that shows you constitute that you're supposed to love me, now m hate me?

12:05 Then said hate me now? Because that ain't love. Loving is supposed to hurt like that. Loving is supposed to put bruises on you. Loving supposed to keep sending you to the hospital. Love ain't supposed to sit there and have you trying to cover this up and make excuses to people about what's going on. Oh, they're going through something. HI didn't mean to do it. Oh well, I kind of feel I walked into the walls or whatever the case may be. No, No, that is not love. Even when we hear people say, well, if they allow them to do that, then they must want it, because they won't leave. A lot of times you a person doesn't know how to leave, even if they want to a lot of times they are so stuck into that toxic um situation until they will make excuses about it, they will begin to enable it. It's sort of like Stockholm syndrome that you get stuck into something and you know what's not right, and you know what's wrong, and the person have done it till you, and have done it till you over and over again, to your mind begins to rationalize it and begin to picture and think that it's normal.

13:30 To when it stops, you don't know how to respond to it, and you continue on with it because you think it's okay, because you think that it's normal, But it's not. These people still need help because again, that is a extremely sick and toxic disease. That's nothing normal about this, Cousins and King folks. It needs to be stopped a huge number and a lot of times it doesn't end up well. There have been a number that have gotten out of it, and I've and and and I've read and have heard and have watched some of their stories, and I'm just like, wow, that is you know, to even come out of that and to you know, still have to go through therapy and and moving forward, and to you know, come out on the other side of the shining light.

14:31 I mean, that is just amazing when I see these stories of men and women who have gone through that. But it takes all It takes a lot in it, and it takes a toll on them. I don't know what it's like personally myself, because I've never been a victim of domestic violence, one way or another. Me doing it because again, that is not me, That is not how I roll, That is not my mentality. For those of you who know me, are those of you that know me personally or no my mentality or no my personality, you know that ain't even me.

15:13 I'm all about protection. I'm all about positivity and everything. But I've never been wanted to do that, and I've never been a victim of it, but I have been. I do know what it's like to be in a toxic relationship that you um enable what's going on with it, even though you know it's not right and you know it's not good for you. I do know what that's like. I do know it's like to arguing with that person and then you just know overlook it. You know, you they just you don't want to argue with you or try to belittle you in some shapes of form, and you just like, don't say anything. You just kind of go along with it. I do know what that's like, and you just kind of go along to get along. I do know what that's like.

16:08 And when I came out of it, I came out of it stronger um than I was when I went in, because I understood and understood the fact of my worth, understood the fact that I deserved better, and I didn't have to take that. Yeah, it is at that particular point, cousins and kin folks when you begin to understand that and know and they know that no means no, and that you don't have to deserve that, and that you have to begin to love yourself enough to get that. Sometimes it takes, but at the end of the day, we have to do what's necessary to help these people, even if they don't see it themselves. There are a lot of resources out their ownline, Domestic Violence Hotline, the Red Cross, UM, many many more places therapists out there that they can talk to. There's a lot of information and places out there online that you can look up and look at that will um provide you with all of the resources to help you not only get out of the situation that you're in, but help you move forward, help you get what you need, the the counseling and the therapy that you need to move past that to be able to begin healing and work on being a better you, and and and healing from that toxics, that toxic relationship that you were in. Domestic violence is real,

17:44 cousins and king folks, It's real. A lot of people say it doesn't exist, but it is real. Let's stop justifying it. Let's stop overlooking it. Let's stop uh normalizing it, let's stop sensationalizing it. Let's stop it has to stop. It has to stop. It has to stop, and we we to get not just me, not just you. We together as a community have to stop it. And we can stop it. You and I together can stop it. Be your voice being advocate of it.

18:47 We can stop it. It doesn't have to continue. On those of you that are sucking and those of you who may find yourself in this situation hearing at the side of my voice or listen to this particular podcast, just know that you are not alone. You are not alone. You have people that are pulling for you, have people that love you. You have people that will help you. You have people that will do what's necessary to help you get out of that, heal from it, get you the help that you need, the resources that you need, and will do so. You are not alone. So, if in the sound of my voice you're listening to this podcast on whatever platform that you may be listening to it on wherever you listen to or get your podcast right now here today on currently under construction, you are not alone. We are here. If you don't want to call anyone or any resources, you can reach out to me here at this podcast.

19:52 You know the email under Construction nineteen sitting there for at yahoo dot com. That is you in d R c O N S t r U K t I O N nineteen seventy four at yahoo dot com. And I will and we will do what we can to get you in touch with someone, get you the resources that you need to help you remove yourself from whatever domestic situation that you're in, man or woman, and it all remains confidential. It's time out for this foolishness cousins. Again, folks, it's time out forward. It's all about love. So again, let's stop normalizing this.

20:45 Uh, what happens between the man and woman is between the man and woman. No, it's not, especially when it's been publicized, it's not. Let's stop that for the brothers that are experiencing domestic violence, because again I said earlier that there are even men that are stuck in domestic violence situations you know, um from women. Hey, don't be ashamed, brother, I know it may come off there we and feel that way tell you, but just don't be ashamed. You took a step up and get whatever help that you need. The same exact way, the same thing goes for you.

21:33 You wanted to remain anonymous, you can, like I say, emails here at UH, at the podcast, we will do what we can to put you in touch with who we can UH therapist, counselor give you the resources that you need to be able to help you move forward, get out of that toxic situation and get the help that you need. We love y'all here currently under construction, cousins and can folks. Again, we are all about promoting positivity here. Those of you who can you know, if you know, listen, this is what we're about. This is what we do because we are a community, we are a family, we are a village.

22:14 The saying that we say at the end, that I say at the end of the podcast isn't just the saying that goes along with it. We stand on that here. That's what we believe here, currently under construction, that is a part of our mantra, that is a part of what we are in the core of us here and currently under construction. October is domestic violence Awareness month. Let's be aware, let's put a stop to it. Let's do what we can to help those that find themselves stuck in these toxic situations.

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