Narcissist..An inside Look

0:02 You know what time it is. Welcome, my people. Welcome, my people. Welcome. Do you know what's episode of your favorite podcast and mine currently under construction? I am your hosts, your cousin, you can't. Folks, you know what it is. Thank you all so much for joining us today. UH, man, it's a beautiful day outside. It's hot. Man, if you're out here and it's hate, please do all that you can, whatever you can stay cool, stay hydrated, because there's no joke. got a hate advisor going on over most of the country. So, cousins and King folks, Y'all be cool out there. Y'All, do your best to stay hydrated, stay cool where, uh, you know, keep yourself protective. You wouldn't know whether you need to wear sunscreen. You know, some type of you be. You be protectant. UH, sleeves over your arms, a hat on your head, whatever you got to do.

0:51 Cousins and King folks, you two ladies won't get on out there and and make sure that you get yourself covered, make sure that you're good. So we don't need anybody having any type of heat strokes, because this heat is no joke. A hundred plus degree weather looks like for the rest of this week. So please be careful out there. And you know there's a heat advisory throughout the week. So if you don't necessarily have to get out there, any cousin can folks, stay inside. Don't do it. Don't do it. Man. I'm glad you all joined to decide to join us again today. Man, I've got a great show lined up for you all today. Say Look, Um, we've touched on this topic before, but I'm gonna yeah, I'm bringing it back around again and we're gonna talk about this one of my favorite, well, I'm not gonna say one of my favorite topics, with a topic that a lot of people have asked me to come revisit, asked me to bring back up, asked me to talk about again. And I am talking about dealing with narcissists, dealing with people who, mh are so into themselves, so all about them, they have complete disregard for the feelings, the emotions, the lives, the wants, the needs or anything of anyone outside of themselves. And I just know that someone,

2:21 you're sitting here, one of like what, do people out there really exist? Yeah, they do, cousins and King folks, they out there. They're out there and they look just like me and you. Sometimes you never know you're dealing with a narcissist until it's too late. Sometimes, I mean, they disguised themselves and to be so many different things, but you don't see it or the understand it until it's too late. They tend to Um Chuck blame at any given time about anything. They refused to believe at all that they've done any wrong to anyone. In their minds it's your fault or in their mind, well, I didn't do anything, that was all you. Yeah, and a lot of times it's hard to understand the reason they do some of the things that they do. Sometimes they talked. It's it's really hard to understand and sometimes you just won't understand. You know, the difference between us and most, you know, people with a narcissistic mind is that, Um, they will flip the script on you in a heartbeat and you never see it coming. They're so smooth and Suave with their game.

3:47 And again, like I told you before, cousins are King folks. It's not just men. There are women narcissist out there too, and they are cold blooded with it. Y'All, hear me, they're cold with it. I'm here to tell you, for Yances don't know what they mean. When I tell somebody cold with it, that means they they lit. Okay, they lit with it a chord and y'all. But yeah, yeah, I mean they just they don't care about anybody. They don't care who they hurt, they don't care who they step on, as long as they get what it is that they want. I have, Um, I knew someone that I was dealing with, a narcissist that, you know, he um for months, you know, had them believing that, you know, they were in a relationship, you know, but when he um, I just achieved his gold and whatever he got out of it. You know, he moved around, you know, and he gave her the reason, like, you know, hey, you know, Um, God told me it's time to move on, that you know that I'm in the whole pattern and that this ain't for. This ain't for and so she was confused by it and everything. But, you know, he moved on and uh, he's out there doing the most. Yeah, and it blew her mind because again, for several months, you know, I don't even close to a year.

5:15 You know, they were, you know, going heavy and hard with it, and then all of a sudden he did a whole u turn, you know, and she couldn't understand why, or whatever the case may be, thinking she did something wrong or how could he turn it off? And you know when she brought it to me and I had to let her know, hey, you know, this is the game that he's playing. Like, what do you mean? Okay, Y'all, some of you fellas may not like this. Some of Y'all may not may maybe may not like it, but you know, y'all, sit down, buckle up. I'm about to give you the game. You see, most narcissists, their whole deal is it's you're a challenge and you're a game to them, and so once they set out in your their target, then they're going to play whatever role is necessary. They're gonna go to the moon with it and beyond. Or Trust me, they're gonna go to the moon with it and beyond. Introduce you the family, introduce you to the kids. You know, they're gonna go all out until set game has been a challenge has been achieved in their minds.

6:23 Now they may hang around with it for a little while longer but now, at this particular point, there is no longer a challenge. So in turn, what they do? They move around. Now I'm gonna step back for a moment. Now. The key thing is about most narcissists is the fact that they don't want things ending on your code. That's a problem for them. They their their ego. The egotistical thoughts won't allow them to to register into their mind. So then they become dismissive like things that you're telling them. You tell them what I don't want to do, expose, I don't want to be with you. Then they become dismissive. They're like, okay, we'll talk about it later, even though you told them that that you're done. You, you, you, it's over. You don't want to hear that. But in their mind they're they're being dismissive to what you just said because in their mind they're saying that, oh, we'll just talk about it later. You know, I'm gonna let you do what you're gonna do for right now. We'll talk about it later. The Ego won't let that compute in their mind and they won't let them let it roll with and let it compute to them. But uh again, moving forward with that.

7:30 You know, it has to end on their terms for them to say at that moment that they're done with you or whatever. So now you're left, you know, picking up the pieces. Now what most do, and and it's not all, but what most do in turn after that, is they will look back around. But you serious? Yeah, yeah, I am serious. They will look back around. They will, in turn look back around, not because they miss you, not because they care or still love you. They'll look back around because, in their mind, according to them, they want to see if the door is still open or they're still a crack in it somewhere. So unless at that particular moment you shut it, don't shut it down immediately, and you give them any type of conversation, whether it's a text message, whether it's just a hello, and you hadn't just shut it down, then then in their mind game on they are ready.

8:37 They've crunk up again. So now, in their particular mind, whether you're single or you have miss someone, in their mind, then they're gonna say, I'm going to see how long it's gonna take me to wish this door back open again. Not that they want you, not that they love you. Or anything, or they're missing you. It's old in the game, it's holding the game. I'm signing like e a sports, e sports, uh, that I'm not trying to trade mark y'all. I'm not trying to infringe on what y'all got going on or anything like that. Um Don't see us. But no, seriously, seriously, this is exactly how they roll. It's all that. It's all in their game to them, in their mind. So even if you're involved with someone now, they'll come off at first like hey, you know whether you you I'm so glad for you.

9:31 I'm happy for you. I'm really happy that you that you found somebody and you make happy. I know I didn't do right in there anything, but you know what, I'm happy for you. But the whole time it's running off in their mind. The whole time it's game on, because now they're trying to see how they can just stay there long enough and wedge their way back in. They sort of play the same game that uh, people eyes most of the guys that are put into the friends zone playing, because you know, most guys that are put into the friends zone with the woman that they have an interest in, they'll just hang around and try to see if they just that right moment come along to where you know they can ease their way in, especially if the woman is involved with somebody. You know they're gonna be there. They'RE gonna be that listing ear or whatever, and they're just gonna hang around mole to try to get in. Well, this is what this is what that narcissist gonna do. He's gonna hang around and try to see if any issues. She's gonna throw the the jabs here there to see how do you respond to it? About the person that you're with, you know, and if you have any issues, that he's gonna through the Oh man, if that was me, I wouldn't have done that.

10:35 Oh, you know what. I know they've been hurt, but hey, don't you know, just, you know, keep smiling and everything. You know it's gonna be all right. But the whole time, it's the whole setup. They're positioning themselves to be there, they're positioning themselves to Um uh continue own and again they're very patient. They're very good at playing the long game. Yeah, again, this this may take months and they have the patience forward. They're not gonna rush anything now. Some a little more, you know, dramatic and a little more possessive and directing others. But most of them, for the most part, they played a long game. It's then play it. And then it did. Throw a little japs here and there and Um may say, Hey, you know what, I just wanted to stop by. You know, they'll come by unannounced or, you know, made up and called in the middle of the night while you sit there, you know, laid up. You know, I'll snuggled up with your your man or your woman and everything. They calling their thing and then they're like, oh, I ain't meaning to call. I end up Butt Downing you or uh, something of that particulation, knowing that's gonna Cause an issue between you and your mate, this little sort of stuff like that. Yeah, they throw it out there. They'll do it real quick and now, as soon as you know, things may go one way or the other.

11:58 which then and they're talking about or you have any doubts about who you will you know, then here they come. Hey, you know I'm here for you. Hey, but you know what, you know I still love you. I know I messed up with what I did, but you know I still love you, and everything and all the history between us. You know it's supposed to be me and you in any way. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, Blah Blah. And there they go. Now they're trying to see if you get in now. Sometimes this works, a lot of times it don't, but for the most part in their minds it's works. And even if at that particular moment and it don't, you don't, they don't give in at that moment, they're still gonna try again, they're still gonna keep themselves position right, because then they're gonna begin to use things from your past or that they knew about you, try to push buttons and manipulate. They're greater manipulation, by the way, masters at it, masters at it, but they'll use little things like that to to manipulate here there, and then the next thing you know they're back in there. You may have broken up with that person and Um, y'all might have had um a night or two here there. You know, of you know, we we we're gonna say what that we're not gonna talk about what that is.

13:18 But you know, we've grown folks, were grown cousins and knding folks. You already know what I'm talking about it and you already know what I'm getting there. Somebody ain't got to uh going on further. What's understood don't have to be explained you. They get already. So once that they've they've accomplished that. So now you're sitting there thinking like okay, well, you know, I'm gonna give us another chance. But in his mind like, okay, you know what, this mission is accomplished. I'm out. What they out again. The whole thing wasn't just because they loved you or wanted to be with you and be back with you. In their mind it was all part of the game. It don't make sense to us, but in their minds it makes perfect sense and that's all that matters to them at that moment.

14:13 We'll never see it, will never wrap our minds around it, like why, why would you go through all that and do that? And I didn't, you know, then start cooking for you again and did X, Y Z or whatever whatnot, and we didn't did what's not it doesn't matter in their minds whether, uh, they begin to do things for you, to get things out of you, whatever the case may be. In their minds, mission has been accomplished. They have set out and been able to do what it is that they wanted to do and you fell forward, Hook, line and sinker. But we don't see it intil their last moment. Sometimes we can see it from the jump. And if we see it from the jump, thing they tend to switch up. But they do a little thing called pushing pool to keep you off balance, to make you to be subtle in what they're doing, and then but come back and like wall hey, you know what, I'm just trying to be here for you. That's called pushing pool. So I for all your narcissists out there, you know, if I'm giving away your your techniques in some of your games, then hey, it's neat to be done, because that's not cool with what y'all doing. How y'all roll with it. And again, I know about it because I've, you know, lived around quite a few of my life.

15:28 I've experienced it and Um, there I said one point in my life and my um teams early twenties, I could have been considered narcissists to a degree. But you know what, when you grow up, you know better, you do better. You know again, Um, I'm not trying to see that on perfect y'all, I still make mistakes, you know, cousins and getting folks. I'm not trying to be an angel anything like that. I'm not just trying to keep you all up, keep your uplift, to keep your encourage and keep y'all up on game, cousins and King folks. But yeah, I'm far from being perfect. I still make mistakes. That's why we're currently under construction. That's why you all are my village, that's why we do the things that we do. Cousins and King Folks, Y'all hold me accountable and vice versa. Am I right? Yeah, I'm right, but look, y'all, be on the lookout out there. You know, just try to be careful, to be mindful of, UH, some of the people that you're inviting your circle or even people that may have been there, that you may not see what you see and you may not see what's going on or what they're doing and how they handled it or whatever. You know, Y'all, just be careful out there because again they slack, they slick and again the game that they're shooting everything, they're cold with it on so many levels. I promise you you know. But Hey, Um man, I love y'All. I he told you nothing else and told y'all later.

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20:45 So get ready for the Phoenix, because the Phoenix is uh about to take flight. Phoenix fire radio coming January, brought to you by under Construction Media Services LLC. Well, when, cousins and Kenning folks, I'm gonna get on the body here for the day. That's my time. I got two more pots for y'all this week. So be on the lookout forward, UM and again. You know, hey, if you you think you're dealing with a narcissist or you know one that's that's around you and your family and your life or whatever, just be careful out there, be mindful of their manipulations and just be on the lookout. COUSINS, King for us, because I want you all to be safe. I want you all to be able to live your lives abundantly and to be able to have all that God has for you. All right, all right. So that's my time, though, but you know, again, we're gonna have two more pots this week.

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