Replay/ Dealing with childhood traumas that become adult traumas

0:01 Welcome back. Welcome back, cousins and King folks. It is a new episode of your favorite podcast in mine, currently under construction. I am your host, Otis. Thank you so much for joining us today. This is a bonus episode. I did this. This is technically not your second episode for this week, but this is a bonus episode. It's just a little something on my mind and I just want to take take an opportunity to stop through, talk to my cousins and kin folks, just share a little bit with you. You know how I do sometimes, y'all. It's stuff be on my mind. I just gotta get it out. So who do I? Come talk to him now. Come talk to Y'all, my people, my folks, my community, my cousins and King folks, and currently under construction, listing audience. Y'All. Know Y'all, my people and I love y'All. Yeah, just a few things. This has been on my mind.

0:52 I just wanted to run across, but I want to propose a question to you all. So this is what I want to ask. Dud Does Childhood TRAUMAS TURN INTO ADULT TRAUMA? I'm gonna come back and say that a kid does childhood traumas in turn turn into adult trauma. Now, most of us, I can't say all of us, I have no specific data to back this up on. We're just going from straight common since y'all, y'all, know how we do y'all know how we do things, I said.

1:37 But most of us have gone through some type of trauma in our childhood life. Whether it's S S. You know what that means, then you know what it means. If you don't, we're just gonna leave there where it is, whether it's that, whether it's child abuse, whether it's mental abuse, whether it's emotional abuse, whether it's one of these situations that there is um a generational curse that seems to be going down from generation to generation that hadn't been broken. All of us have experienced some type of trauma as a chill, as a child, whether it was by our family, by a loved one, by your friend, someone around a community, a teacher or even a stranger. But do those traumas in turn become adult traumas or slash adult issues? Personally, I think it does. I think if these these these TRAUMAS aren't dealt with, it can become it can in turn become though it can be in turn become a problem. For example, if you were

3:10 born in my generation, and I do think I'm a part of generation X. I'm not a baby boomer, I'm not that old. I'm definitely not a generation why or millennial. I'm too old for that. But I do think that generation x will be those that were born between nineteen sixty five and, I believe, nineteen seventy nine or nine eighty seventy four. Baby, you know how we do. My I still think my generations is one of the best. But you know, hey, I'm biased. I'm biased. If a generation stay there, is it's the best. I'm biased. Suit me. That will be another topic. That will be another subject and that will be here for debate. Also, we're gonna definitely have somebody on with us to debate there, because I have a friend that seems to debate whicheration is the best. Um, they feel that there's this, but again, that's that's another subject. That's another topic for another day. Will come back to that. But Um, if you were going around in my generation or you're close to my age, and I do even feel the generation after mine, they have the same mindset because they went through something similar. But we again, and I've spoken on this before, we if something happened to you, it was never dealt with or discussed or even talked about. A lot of times these things were either overlooked, swept up under the rug Um,

4:41 not talked about, or you were just told straight up and look, stop being punking, you just be a man and you don't you know whatever. But these things were never dealt with. So, especially as boys, you know and you know, you were talked to. You had to be tough. You couldn't show your most. You can show your feelings, you know, you couldn't cry or anything like that, because that was a sign of weakness. So you had to be hard and tough in any and everything that you did, regardless if it hurt you or not. And that's just that's that's a check the way of thinking. But this is how we were conditioned. I mean not just even by family members, but just by uh, our environment and our surroundings as such. You know, our our girls, we were they were taught to be. You had to be cute, you got to find a husband, you got to do x, Y Z and everything like that. And you're not successfunless you find a husband that makes money, and is this or is that? And and you're a girl and you're you're supposed to be frail and whatever the case may be. And as far from the truth. A lot of these things that we were raised in my generation as far from the truth. So like if I got punched in the chest as a kid and it mis hurt, it might have noted to win out of me. So the first thing that I would sit there and told was, I'll suck it up, you a man, get up to.

6:15 Just punched me in my chest. You just punched me in my diaphragm. That mis hurt. But again, weren't allowed to be shown weakness. You weren't allowed to say that hurt. A lot of us even were exposed or two things that may have hurt US emotionally from my family and our loved ones, but we weren't allowed to speak about it because, again, if you were around my generation or after or before, you were told children to be seen and not heard. So as a child you didn't have a voice to not I mean not only to speak up for yourself, but to Um say something was wrong, but it was it, but it was contradictory because you were told in one breath, hey, if somebody does something to you, you come talk to me, you come tell me about it, and then in another breath you were told you're a child, you are to be seen and not heard. That's confusing. That's confusing. But those things in turn

7:45 carry over because now you've been conditioned to some of these things and these traumas as a kid and even though some of these things that you moved past as an adult or the older you've gotten, but they affect you in so many different other ways. Sometimes we realize that and sometimes we don't. Sometimes they come out of US wrong because you have you've been may have been made to feel that you can protect yourself or you had no way to or anything as a child, and then that in turn becomes anger, then that anger becomes rage and it can just go out of control as an adult. Now, I'm not saying that happens or to fix everybody that way. I'm just giving an example. It could, it couldn't turn flip into something much worse.

9:01 That's one of the things when I say some childhood Traumas can become adult traumas or things that you may have had to push down deep inside of you to be able to deal with or move past. But they're still there because we weren't taught up properly deal with them, or you may just had to figure out the best of that you can deal with it is push it down, hold it. They're put it at the back of your mind and keep it pushing. But any but we know that anything too much of it or apply too much pressure, something's going to happen and change. The old saying goes pressure busses a pipe. But regardless of whatever the pressures, where it's water pressure, where it's air pressure, anything, if it has nowhere to go, if you pushed it down and constantly kept pushing it down and it has nowhere to go, it's going to have to come out somewhere and it's gonna come and when it comes out it's going to damage whatever it's in. If you feel, if you feel a glass up with water and there's a way that you could put that glass in and what you stead of pumping water into it, but there's no way for it to come out. Once it feels up and you're still pumping that water in, guess what happens? It's going

10:31 to expand at some point. It's going to break that glass because, why, it has nowhere to go. And when it breaks that glass, what happens? That glass is now damaged. It's damaged because it's broken because they had anywhere to go. So it came out violently. It's damaged. Yeah, sometimes that's how things come out. It's not a crime to want to do better or break those generational curses that you have or to overcome those things that harmed us as children. There's no harm in that. It's because you're a man and a woman and regardless of your age, whether you're still in your twenties, your thirties, your forties or your fifties, there is no harm and wanting to deal with those things that you've had to overcome, that you've had to bypass, push down, deal with or whatever case may be,

12:03 when you were a kid. There is no harm in wanting to get help for that. You should. You deserve to, because you didn't deserve those things that you went through, whatever it may be. I'm not pinpointing anything in specific or in particular, not at all. Trauma, just like some other things. No, there's not one any greater than the other. All are damaging to us some shape former fashion. They are, but we have to stop being afraid to deal with those things or finding a way to deal with I mean not not like we've had to to grow up, you know, and everything, but to talk to somebody. Gonna sit there before it so in turn it's not passed down again inadvertently from you to one of your children, it's one of your babies. It has to stop somewhere.

13:33 This is the time for us to break these generational curses. It's time for us to move past two to be able to deal with and overcome all of these childhood traumas that most of us have experienced that we still are carrying around. We shouldn't have to take these things to the grave with us. Some of these things are hindering us from heaving productive lives, productive relationships, raising our kids better, living our lives better, and it is some of us and find different ways to cope it, and the way that we may have had to copy before doesn't work anymoret of then we we turn to something else.

14:28 Why? Because we're still not dealing with it. We have to deal with these things, people. We have to. That's how we're going to get better as a people. That's how our future, which is our children, is going to get better once we right that cycle. But it has to start with us. It's not too late. As long as the most high continuous to give us breadth in our bodies, it is not too late for us to deal with these things. It's not that's are some things.

15:15 Well, I'm too old to deal with that now, or I'm set in my ways. No, change is inevitable to us all. I was told always the only thing that is constant, with the exception of God, the only thing that is constant in this world is change. Sounds Cliche, but it's true. That is the with the exception of God himself, that is the only thing in this world, on this plane of existence, that is constant change. And every happens, good or bad. It comes and it happens. It's no stopping it. Bottom line, there is no stopping it.

16:11 So what are you gonna do? Are you going to overcome that? Are you gonna overlook are you going to move past that? Are you going to go to someone that you can talk about, deal with, overcome, move past and become better for you, your children, your marriage, your relationships, your job, in your life. Think about it here. You deserve that. I says he wants to live a life abundantly. How can you if you're still carrying around a burden of hurts from yesterday? My people, that's all I'M gonna I'm gonna say on that today. Like I said, this wasn't irregular episode. This was something, a bonus episode for you all, something that was just on my mind, that I wanted to come talk to you all about, from a conversation that I've had previously, that

17:41 I wanted to talk with you all about, that I wanted to share with you all, with and I just wanted to drop something into your spirit. We don't have to continue to deal with that. There's help out there. Let's you and me and all of us cousins and King folks have the courage and the conviction to break that generational curse so we can become better people in every aspect. I love you all and I want the best for you at all times, and that will do it for this bonus episode. Of currently down the construction. You know, we do this thing twice a week.

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